This is ABUSE

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  • Abuse in a relationship can happen to anyone.
  • It's never ok.
  • It can destroy your self-confidence, have a negative impact on your
    health and wellbeing
    and leave you feeling isolated and lonely.
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    a partner may try to pressure you into having sex by saying "if you loved me you would"

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    They may call you names or threaten to spread rumours about you

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    They might try to control you by checking your phone

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    They may try to force you to do things by hitting you

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    They might get angry when you want to spend time with your friends

Relationship Checklist

In a healthy relationship both partners treat each other with respect. Answer the following questions honestly to work out if your partner treats you with the respect you deserve.



Is your partner willing to compromise?

Does your partner let you feel comfortable being yourself?

Is your partner able to admit to being wrong?

Is your partner trusting and understanding?

Do you agree with this statement: My partner never tries to control what I wear, where I go or what I do

Do you agree with this statement: My partner does not physically hurt me 

Do you agree with this statement: My partner does not emotionally hurt me (by calling you names, threatening you, making you feel bad)

Does your partner try to resolve arguments and conflict by talking honestly?

Do you feel safe being with your partner?

Does your partner respect your feelings, your opinions and your friends?

Does your partner accept you saying no to things you don't want to do (like sex)?

Does your partner accept you changing your mind?

Does your partner respect your wishes if you want to end the relationship?

When someone loves you, you feel safe, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel scared, intimidated or controlled.

If you have answered 'no' to any of these questions, you could be in an abusive relationship and may want to speak to someone.

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