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Is insulting and threatening a partner abuse?
Is insulting and threatening a partner with violence abuse?
Is insulting and threatening a partner abuse?
Is insulting and threatening a partner with violence abuse?
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Muhammad kamran aslam
23/04/2012
i don't understand this know u people understanding this. when its get to late. but girls you have to speak for this. have to take a step for this. this isn't love and you know it what is this very well. so step forward and don't let this happens before it get too late
ReplyMuhammad kamran aslam - 23/04/2012
JLLYBEAN45
22/04/2012
i was13 and with my sister and and she was having sex with this one guy and this other guy was hitting on me and h kept on pressuring me and then he grabbed and told me i wanted to and stuff and i didnt say anything because i was to scared and while we were whatever you want to call this other guy was touching me too and after the first guy was done the other guy made me have sex with him too
ReplyJLLYBEAN45 - 22/04/2012
A
21/04/2012
My Mum and I used to do Karate lessons for self defence on stuff like this. More for me. I am prepared. I feel so sorry for all those who have to go through abuse. It makes me sick. It was my mum's idea for me to get karate lessons and i am happy because when i'm out and i'm on my own, i do get looks from all kind of guys my age and older. I'm only 13 but i do feel secure and safe cuz i know i do have a chance to defend myself if this situation happens. Girls, learn Martial Arts, and no-one can touch you.
ReplyA - 21/04/2012
i just want to say i do karate aswel and it has helped me once when a drunk man in the sreet came upto to me and said he was going to rape me. Before he could touch me i had hit him in the groin, twisted his arm round and had him on the floor in pain. So i ran. I want to thank my karate insrtuctors for that.
megs - 28/12/2012
polly
18/04/2012
i work as a counsellor for young people who have experienced some kind of sexual violation - i work with young men and young women - it is not only young women who experience this kind of thing. and its not only young people abusing young people - its brilliant that this whole thing is being talked about but we do need to see its not just about male abuse to female. thanks!
Replypolly - 18/04/2012
Dan
14/04/2012
I would like to firstly say that my thoughts go out to anyone who has had to carry on their lives after anything like this has happened to them, it shouldn’t happen and there should be no need for site like this nor need for the countless lives ruined by such horrendous acts of spit. But what also goes out to any individual that has experienced such thing and those close to them who carry them through it is pure admiration and respect, I admire someone who is strong enough to pick what they can up after these atrocious acts are committed on them. Thus carrying on with their life though scared but powerful and strong. Though it may feel "your" alone and can’t turn any direction for support I want "you" to know that there is always light at the end of the tunnel, always a silver lining and always a brighter day after the dark storm. Though u may feel like you are nothing, know that you are beautiful, you are special, you are strong and most importantly you are you which nothing will change. I do what I can to help people to stay happy, I do what I can to stay strong but these people do it ten-fold and have my full support respect and admiration. To all of "you" stay strong and you will find that you are an amazing person. With all my praise and admiration Dan x
ReplyDan - 14/04/2012
a friend
14/04/2012
im only 14, i have'nt even had a boyfriend yet, but i feel so sorry for everyone who has had to deal with this. it's revolting to think thats what's happening in our world today. i think everyone who's posted there story is so brave. it must be so hard to deal with it on your own and i hope that you all find someone who care's and love's for you. not all guy's and girl's do this but if someone does do this, my advise is to tell someone don't keep it in. i wish everyone good luck and don't let that person destroy your life. life is an amazing thing, not all of life is good but yet not all of life is bad x
Replyfrom a friend
a friend - 14/04/2012
candy
13/04/2012
is un fair iam bisexual and people are beting me up my brother is just like this i wish my child hood was over my my mum is such a little player iam alllways alone
Replycandy - 13/04/2012
hey if your biased then that is your choice if they are picking on you try to rise above it or if you would like write a diary to put all your worries away or tell a trusted adult
Alex Wright - 27/04/2012
hey why is ur brother being beaten up if ur a bi
lollie3 - 24/04/2012
megan
13/04/2012
I think Rape and Abuse is Wrong! People should be able to stop and Think about what there doing because it may seems right to them but not to the other person. If People could see there selfs and feel how other people are feeling they wouldn't do it because its wrong. If anyone has been putting up with things like this don't! you should be able to speak for youself maybe just maybe they would understand and stop before they hurt you. Just think or speak before you do it or let them. don't be scared
Replymegan - 13/04/2012
James
12/04/2012
sorry but I cant help but notice that there is no mention of the, very very few but still existing, cases of a girl controlling a guy: verbal and psychological abuse. even a single video dedicated to this would make the whole campaign far more open to other sects of the adolescent population. female to male abuse might be rare, but it does happen. And its just as ferocious and soul destroying and male to female.
ReplyJames - 12/04/2012
Very very few? It happens a lot more than you might think
Walter - 29/04/2012
alex
12/04/2012
awww mate if i say some bloke abusing some lass id *up 4 different ways before sundown the sad thing * like this goes on all the time but know one hears about because the woman are too afried to speak out at lest this is giveing not only blokes but woman as well that their is no excuse for this type of behavoiur sorry for the swearing
Replyalex - 12/04/2012
Valerie
12/04/2012
I think all of these videos are totally relevant and I completely support this campaign - I think it's brilliant, however; I don't think that the guys should be made out to be the bad people in every situation. I don't doubt that in the majority of cases it is the male participant who is being abusive, however girls abusing their boyfriends or partners is a lot more common than you would think. In these cases it isn't usually to do with sex, but girls can often me a lot more devious and controlling than boys, which leads to a lot of emotional - if not physical - damage to these guys. I think more videos should be put up to demonstrate this because what is currently here - although fantastic - is quite sexist and stereotypical. *I am a girl by the way, but I have a male friend who has been through something similar to what I am describing.*
ReplyValerie - 12/04/2012
kitty
12/04/2012
I had a best girlfriend which I grew up.
Reply15 we went to different schools and then she came to false friends and drugs.
one day i want to visit her. at her home i saw a girl and her boyfriend. The girl was known as a bully and her boyfriend as dealer. my best friends partens were not home... they locked the door and the bully girl holding a knife on my neck. then she said: if you do not sleep with my boyfriend i kill you. my best girlfriend just sat in a corner and has watched. they dont let me go after this. I had to stay overnight. The girl said you slept with my boyfriend. if you fall asleep, I'll cut your hair off and put glue on the rest. i dont sleep. next day my best friends parents came at home and i run home. I told everything to my mother
because my mother hated me, but,
she do not believe me
The criminals were never forced to be accountable. sorry for my bad english im from germany
kitty - 12/04/2012
if your bestfriend has changed that much and become friends with these sort of people then she must be in some sort of trouble. if you can text her but if they are trying to force you to do those sort of things there is something wrong with them.
Alex Wright - 27/04/2012
C
11/04/2012
When I was at age 9 my father started to hit me justifying " I had to start to work. For smaller reasons, like "be slow to do the dishes", It took many years before I went to the judge. I came from a violent family and my grandpa was drunk all wekeends, while he crash and hit who tries to stop him. It last for many years and when I was going to university my father forced a kiss inside of the university, in front of everyone, while I screamed and tried to get them away. He grabbed my legs too. I never could hug him again. My family say he have religious rights to do it because he´s father and man. I fell like a muslin daughter
ReplyC - 11/04/2012
He doesnt have that right regardless of whom he may be
I'm a Muslim to and nowhere does it.say in the holy book a daughter can be treated however x
nana - 31/12/2012
Vicky
11/04/2012
This is an absolutley brilliant campaign and its good that abusive relationships in teenagers has been brought into the public eye, hoever I have yet to see anything about boys being the victim yet. I do feel this should be rectified as a girl can be just as controlling and mentally and emotionally abusive as any boy.
ReplyVicky - 11/04/2012
Rosie
09/04/2012
When i was 16 i thought i had met the greatest man in the world, we loved each other and nothing could change that. a year and 5 months went and we went to seperate colleges and we split as we were arguing so much. we then decided to date again and he got talking to my ex before him. i thought nothing of it and carried on like nothing had happened, then one day he turns around and says he cant do it anymore and dumped me again, i was destrought but i still went to college. the same day i was walking home and decided to walk across the field behind my house. i saw a dark figure in the distance so i decided to walk across another part of the field and head towards my house but there was yet another person, i then looked around and in the distance there was around 12 men walkin towards me, i paniked and started to run but before i could go anywhere one of them grabs my hair and pulls me down to the floor, they each take there turns insurting into me but was told they would kill me and my ex who i still cared about. a week later i talk to my ex before the one who broke up with me, nd he asked me if i had fun in the field, it didnt click but then i realised it was him and his friends who raped me, he told me that it was him who told my boyfriend to break up with me, i rang the police and he was arreseted. 1 year later i am now in a new relationship and i couldnt b happier and so is my ex boyfriend, i still cannot go in the field but time will help with it. thankyou 4 reading
ReplyRosie x
Rosie - 09/04/2012
i feel really hurt and sorry 4 u. Hope everything gets beta 4 u an i wish those guys who raped u pay for wat theyv don cos thats disgustin wat theyv don 2 u. my heart weeps 4 u cos i feel so sorry 4 u. and even though i'v neva been raped, i cant stand rapists. And i'm 16 an i don't av any boyfriends an neva had em cos i'm scared i'll get raped and also 2 of my classmates no so many girls who got raped by their boyfriends an eva since then i dont want a boyfriend even though almost all the boys in my yer want me 2 be their girlfriend cos they find me preti. but i hope i get a nice, luvin hubi in da future.
sweetcelebreteen - 15/04/2012
omg some thing like that happed to but it wasmy dad and a iam only 13 and pregneat and the baby his and my boy friend said he will love it as hes own and my dad came on to me as i was whating a film
candy - 13/04/2012
OMG, when I read your post i felt, so sorry for you. I can't believe that happened to you. I am sure you are bright, pretty girl, and you should not have gone through that!!! Always here to talk.
Izzy xox
Izzy - 10/04/2012