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Harry
06/02/2012
my girlfriend is hitting me repeatedly and calling me horrible nasty names. i have been getting very emotional recently because of this abusive behavior and i do not know what to do. She has threatened to do terrible things to me and my family if i leave her. please help me or give me some advice, i simply cannot take this foul behavior any longer
ReplyHarry - 06/02/2012
Hi Harry. Thanks for getting in touch. Please try and find someone you trust to talk to about the abuse you are experiencing in your relationship. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. Male victims of abuse of all ages can get help and support from the Men’s Advice Line on 0808 801 0327 or visit www.mensadviceline.org.uk email: info@mensadviceline.org.uk
Lisa
01/02/2012
I was out with my ex boyfriend and his best mate when my ex picked up the phone I stayed and talked to his mate, when we got back to his he shouted at me calle m various name and hit me. Luckily I got out of the relationship and have ony told my most trusted friend. A girl at schol who I know quite wells gtting close to him he's asked her to go I don't want the same thing to happen to her I need to warn her of, because he's so clever about it. I just can't bring yself to actually tell her.
ReplyLisa - 01/02/2012
Hi Lisa. Thank you for getting in touch. It isn't your responsibility to talk to her about this. But if you feel you can try having a quick chat with her and tell her what happened to you so that she knows. Tell her that you just wanted to make sure she had all of the information, so she can make her own mind up about it. We hope this helps and that it goes OK.
Courtney
10/01/2012
Repetedly at home i get treated like im nothing and ive gotten hit before lots and im basically emotionally and physically abuse and ive told a social worker but im to scared to tell me family what i did help!!!!
ReplyCourtney - 10/01/2012
Courtney, you shouldn't have to put up with emotional or physical abuse. You can talk through the problems you raised with ChildLine on 0800 1111 or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively you can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk.
Sally
23/12/2011
I am in love with this boy at school, and I'm scared of how to tell him, please help!!!
ReplySally - 23/12/2011
Sally, try and find someone you are comfortable with and trust to talk to about it. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. You could also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 for advice or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.
Henry
22/12/2011
Vicky, if you think you can, have a word with the guy, is he easy to talk to? I know from personal experience that some guys don't actually know they are pressuring/making a girl feel pressured into doing stuff. I had a girl tell me once that i was making her friend uncomfortable in the relationship, I stopped doing what it was and we were MUCH happier after. I REALLY hate relationship abuse, and to be told i was basically doing it was a BIG shocker, it got me to get my hormones under control and focus on being a good boyfriend! I hope this helps?
ReplyHenry - 22/12/2011
Emily
22/12/2011
Everyone at school keeps spreading stupid thing about my friend, they keep saying things like: is it true you had sex with your boyfriend? it really upsets her! what should i do?
ReplyEmily - 22/12/2011
Emily, you should try and find someone she trusts to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a youth worker or anyone else that she feels comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone she thinks she can talk to and that she feels comfortable with and trusts. If they don't want to listen, keep encouraging her until she finds someone that does, she has the right to be safe and help and support is out there. She can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where she can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively she can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Jem
22/12/2011
Yeah, been there. Gave into it like a twat. I'd class that as rape, what a way to lose it
ReplyJem - 22/12/2011
charlie
20/12/2011
My girlfriend is abusive and pressures me into sex, she says if i don't have sex with her she will tell everybody i'm fridged, and then she hits me, and she tells me to tell people when that ask "why do i have bruises on your face ?" that i walked into a door, what should i do?, she is 3 years older than me and I'm 12. -
Replycharlie - 20/12/2011
Charlie, you should try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.
vicky
16/11/2011
i have a friend, like me is only 14, who likes this boy but he is pressuring her into sex and other stuff iv told her to leave him alone but she can nerve take her eyes off him at school im worried that she will get to a stage when she will go out with him and he will pressure her into sex i dont no what to do!
Replyvicky - 16/11/2011
vicky, you need to sit down with you friend and talk to her about this as she wont realise that this disiosion is wrong and she wouldnt like it that way, explain to her that her first time should be with someone she really likes or even loves. how much older is this boy ?
Demi - 14/12/2011
MagickBorn
14/12/2011
My ex-boyfriend was like this. He pressured me into having sex with him, called me nice things to my face, treat me [bad] and use me and slag me off behind my back. I got out August 2011 when i found out he was trying to get this girl out behind my back. Since then i've found a guy who Doesn't even DREAM of even asking me to sleep with him, a real Gentleman who has a real heart. My ex has instead used a girl while was asking three others out behind her back. Seriously, At least now i have someone who treats me like the most important thing in life. I got out just in time i guess. even if i was engaged to him three times and almost gave everything i had for him to keep him happy.
ReplyMagickBorn - 14/12/2011
klara
02/12/2011
vicky, you must stop her from this abuse because if you don't she'll get to a situation where she won't be the same again.
Replyklara - 02/12/2011
Respect
29/11/2011
Learn to love and respect yourself before someone else does. If you don't an abusive partner will see this and use it against you and to get what they want i.e SEX!!! Be confident with who are and make sure you know what you want before it's too late!
ReplyRespect - 29/11/2011
Laura
28/11/2011
Sexual abuse is wrong. You should notice if someone is pressuring you. Don't let them do it!
ReplyLaura - 28/11/2011
Lalpettai
18/11/2011
This is not good cas he is forcing her to do that but she is not ready to do that. also she is not interesting and if she is ready that you can take her but she is not ready :(
ReplyLalpettai - 18/11/2011
Bullied girl
12/11/2011
My boyfriend is forcing me to have sex and i put a stop to it after looking at this website but i hve an othert boyfriend is it still ok to have sex i am still over 16 but i am scared that what my last one did to me what shall i do because i really love him, i dream of having sex with him is that wrong?
ReplyBullied girl - 12/11/2011