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Connor:)
03/01/2012
i think this should not be filtered forr schools as we need to know about these sorts of things as well
ReplyConnor:) - 03/01/2012
Thank you Connor for your comment and the interest you have shown. The videos look at areas where teenage abuse can take place. We can't show every situation but we think they do get the message across whether or not it is directly applicable to the environmentment you move in. You are absolutely right in saying everyone needs to be aware of abuse among teenagers. The campaign aims to do just that. Thanks again for your thoughts.
Elliee <3
21/12/2011
This is so wrong, people shouldn't put you down like that.
ReplyElliee <3 - 21/12/2011
Lily <3
17/12/2011
Woah, those poor people! WE NEED to stpo bullying!
ReplyLily <3 - 17/12/2011
14/12/2011
14/12/2011
Emma you should try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively you can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Anonymous
12/12/2011
i think the girl should go and tell someone that she can turst
ReplyAnonymous - 12/12/2011
Anonymous
09/10/2011
firstly i'd like to say that as a guy, i find this website quite sexist, and offensive. girls can be just as abusive as guys. for instance, my ex used to do this exact same thing, checking my phone constantly, she used to make me delete female contacts from it, she always went on my facebook, i could go on forever. i only ever went out with her, never with my friends, to avoid upsetting her. if i refused to let her do any of these things, if i said "no, im not going to stop texting her she's my friend" for example, she would go completely insane, she used to cut herself and burn herself and then tell me that it was my fault, that i made her do it because i upset her. that used to make me feel awful about myself because i actually used to believe her, and feel bad for her. that was a while ago now though, i ditched her and now im in a new relationship with the most perfect girl i could wish for, so everything turned out okay :) so yeah, the gist of my story is, it isnt just guys who are like this, girls can be just as bad.
ReplyAnonymous - 09/10/2011
Good for you man :)
Anonymous - 15/10/2011
I was in an abusive relationship but didn't realise it as this was how members of my family treated women too so it was difficult to work out that this was wrong when so many people said nothing when my dad treated my mum and us kids like this. My dad used to arrange to come over and then not turn up and then if my mum complained, he'd stop paying the maintainance and we'd not have enough money for the rent. That was far worse than just hitting us. I know that girls and women play these games too, but it seems that people ignore it much more when its guys doing it which then seems to encourage more of them to do it too.
Vicki - 28/10/2011
Yeah your are very right my son went through the same thing as his girlfriend punched kicked and pushed him down stairs he is a big burly bloke she was little but it can wear you down till you feel like nothing so woman can do this and get away with it works both ways women and men in domestic violence need to get out .
anonymous - 06/12/2011
raxm
30/11/2011
i am married living in london for 3 and half years.Since when i come here,my partner forcing me to earn money.I did it for a year. then i lost my job.after that i got another job with a school for part time.now i earn less money than i was before.so he always forcing me to do a certain type of job that i prefer not to do.so he always put me down in presence of his relatives and tells me that he now doesnt want to be with me.
Replyraxm - 30/11/2011
sam
25/11/2011
i hate seeing this, it makes me feel so stupid because im in an extremelly abuse relationship but im stuck and i cant get out. Dont know who tot urn to
Replysam - 25/11/2011
Hi Sam. If you’re suffering from physical, emotional or sexual abuse try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively you can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Rose
15/11/2011
i have been with my boyfriend for a year now, he makes fun of me when we are with hes friends then we its just us two he is so nice to me., hes not that controlling but he tells me to do things, when i dont he just says now and gets in my face we play fight but sometimes it gets to far and really hurts me.i love him so much what should i do >?
ReplyRose - 15/11/2011
Hi Rose If you are suffering from emotional abuse, which can include someone putting you down, or calling you nasty names, trying to control you and stopping you doing certain things or making you do things you don’t want to do, try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively you can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Courtney
09/11/2011
Hello,i've been with my partner 7 years & he is the same,very very controlling we have 2 kids together & he never wants too look after them.he is always pushing me around he has hit a good fare few times dueing a arguement & he says thats it my fault i derserve all i get cz i get mouthly back too him.But i love him lots & just dont know where or how too go from here.
ReplyCourtney - 09/11/2011
Lianne
09/11/2011
I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years for the last 5 years he has been very controlling,he orders me around & if I dont do it he'll say tell me too do as my told...otherwise i'll get a punch in the face.i've told one person about this & they have told me too leave him,but i love him & will never find someone else as i'm ugly & fat.he is forever calling me names :( Will he ever change?
ReplyLianne - 09/11/2011
Hi Lianne. Thanks for posting. I was very concerned to read your story. It's crucial that you get support in going about dealing with your situation in the right way - and above all, safely. For advice on this and protecting yourself in the process, you can contact your local women’s aid/refuge to see if they have an outreach team. To find out more, try Women's Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk or visit www.womensaid.org.uk You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Please remember, though it may not feel like it at times, there are always people who will listen.
chelsea
05/11/2011
I can under stand you love him but if he loved you that much he would lave you alone,your better off with out him,next time you try to tell him how you fell, dont talk to him tell him.if he thinks your soft he will think ,well no one can stop me and he will keep doing it ,your friends are right about what they say to you.I dont no if you have hered this saying but your boyfriend for life but your best friends are forever. if i was you get ride of your boyfriend and keep your friends and if posible tell someone how might help like your famliy.
Replychelsea - 05/11/2011
Mai
02/10/2011
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, he's slightly controlling but my friends all say he's abusive towards me but I don't see it, he's only hit me three times and when he gets mad its usually my fault anyway. He checks my phone and takes it off me and says i'm addicticed to it, but I barely use it. I've lost my best friend because of him but I love him and when I try to confront him he either shouts at me or starts to cry and promise me he'll change and I always end up comforting him. In easter 2011 I became really ill and almost lost the ability to have children, my chances of concieveing are now 34% and its really upsetting yet when I was ill he always thought of himself and used to shout at me for not cuddling him and comforting plus also blameing me for slimming his chances to be a dad when he is old enough. My friends all say I should end it but I love him and his familyand I'm unsure what to do please help!
ReplyMai - 02/10/2011
If you are suffering from emotional abuse, which can include someone putting you down, or calling you nasty names, trying to control you and stopping you doing certain things or making you do things you don’t want to do, try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively you can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk
u should go find someone else how will care for u and comfort u when ur ill and im sure ull have a baby if u wont to but wiv the man u love
Anonymous - 15/10/2011
hey,not being horrible,but i think you should find somebody else,if he has been hitting you in the passed he will carry on in the fucher
hayley - 27/10/2011
You are being Abused girl! !!!!!!!(Have you tried the help line?)
Georgee - 27/10/2011
hes not worth it! if hes controlling you and hes hit you its irrelevant how many times he has, its the fact hes done it and can again any time he wants he has the upper hand on you and your blinded by love you need to see past all the charm and the good times and see what hes doing to you! you cant lose friends they will be here for us no matter what even thro' fights they will be there at the end of the day:') - i hope this has helped you but if it hasnt i hope you all the best
heidi - 30/10/2011
WALL
30/10/2011
i feel like im a wall and i have no where to go he controled me soo badly sometimes i felt like running away but i couldnt i knew he would find me
ReplyWALL - 30/10/2011
f you are suffering from emotional abuse, which can include someone putting you down, or calling you nasty names, trying to control you and stopping you doing certain things or making you do things you don’t want to do, try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there. You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards. Alternatively you can call Women’s Aid on 0808 2000 247, or email them on helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Joanne
28/10/2011
I've had a boyfriend that tryed to push me to do thing I didnt want to do and his mates were with him and they were egging him on. When I said no to some of the things he asked me he pretended to be upset to make me feel sorry for him. I'm glad that he is my ex boyfriend now but I wasn't happy with the way he treated me and now I can't trust some lads and when my ex put me down I put myself down and my mates say im still doing it.
ReplyJoanne - 28/10/2011