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BillyDonie95
26/04/2012
Thanks for all the info.
ReplyBillyDonie95 - 26/04/2012
anon
21/04/2012
my boyfriend (broken up now) made me do things i didn't want to do. he then told people at school who were my friends and we got in an argument because they said i was disgusting, even though i didn't want to do it. i am now bullied. people throw things at me, shout things at me, write disgusting songs about me and send me horrible messages. karma :(
Replyanon - 21/04/2012
Ethena
17/04/2012
Very good to see this initiative. It does need to be more promoted through public media like bill board/ poster in bus etc
ReplyOne more thing I can not help to share is, using partner's picture/videos for bad purpose may also considered and included here as 'abuse'
Ethena - 17/04/2012
Sammie
13/04/2012
what i dont understand is why people have to be abuseive to their partners its degusting i just dont see the point :( a relationship is supossed to be something special between two people sharing their love for eachother :) not someone controling the other person ordering them around telling them to do and giving them what they want !!!!! if i was in a relationship like that and the other person was being like that yh i love them but i would say to myself is this what i want why would i have to put up with this!! if my partner doesnt like it then i would tell him where to put it becuz no one deserves it i dont !!!!!!! for people in this situation you should dump that zero and get yourself a hero!! i know it would be hard becuz you love them but just think is that what you want :)
ReplySammie - 13/04/2012
cameron
12/04/2012
these boys need to grow up. respecting people and learning is what is the difference beetween a boy and a man. But i agree with tom below me there
Replycameron - 12/04/2012
michelle
12/04/2012
what do i do my boyfriend is abusing me and if i say no he does it more help me im scared and i am only sixteen and he doing it unprotected
Replymichelle - 12/04/2012
dumb him, your boyfriend shouldn't treat you like that and when you do, tell him don't ever treat you like dirt again or anyone. stick up for yourself!
Sandra - 19/04/2012
Hi Michelle
Thank you for posting and I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time in your relationship.
If you are in an abusive relationship, it is important that you find someone you can talk to.
It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.
You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or you can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge) 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm.
Abusive relationships can start with verbal or emotional abuse and could happen to anyone. It can often escalate into physical abuse, by which time your self-esteem is likely to be damaged.
Many abusive behaviours in relationships are against the law. For example, if your partner hits you, it’s assault. If they force you to carry out sexual acts or force you into sex, this is sexual abuse or rape. Being threatened or harassed by a partner is just as much a crime as violence from a stranger. If this is happening to you do not confront your partner on your own. Please speak to a trusted adult or the police.
Tom
11/04/2012
I understand what these videos are trying to suggest to the public and explain where girls, (only as it seems) may be suffering from abuse, however I fail to understand why it's only girls that are being shown as the victims, I've got lots of friends (males) who's girlfriends get angry and cause social problems i.e. stopping them from going out/seeing friends if they so much as make eye contact with another girl. These adverts are a little bit annoying and one sided in my opinion. But let me make it clear again that I understand the ideas that these videos are trying to get across.
ReplyTom - 11/04/2012
Completely agree! Not wanting to lesser the seriousness of abuse towards women (myself being someone who's been through my fair share) but I feel that it is just as important (if not more important - due to gender stereotyping) to show how males can be victimised by violent, agressive or verbally intimidating women. What this awareness campaign is doing is fantastic but it needs to see the WHOLE picture, hopefully we'll see something soon!!
Ella - 26/04/2012
lillie
11/04/2012
i think this should stop completely its terrible the way they treat people !
Replylillie - 11/04/2012
lillie
11/04/2012
hello i think things like this dont just hurt the victim but hurt there parents to if i could i would stop abuse sexual abuse most i know how it feels when someone trys sexual abuse to you. If i was someone who does sexual abuse i would THINK about my actions STOP why would i want to do this anyway SAY SORRY if you do it say sorry !!!
Replylillie - 11/04/2012
chloe
10/04/2012
is it abuse if someone keeps asking you to send reveling pics? even if its your boyfriend?
Replychloe - 10/04/2012
Hi Chloe
You shouldn't be pressured into sending your boyfriend any photos you're not comfortable with. If your boyfriend cares for you he will respect your decision.
Katie
09/04/2012
This Happened to me before, a boyfreind, he kept checking everything I was doing, whenever I even spoke to a boy he litertatlly went bonkers. But then he had his group of freinds who went late night partying and I saw him flirting with loads of girls at school. He kept on pressuring me into doing it with me and one night we were watching a film and he kept on touching me and didnt like it, he then forced himself onto me. Ive never really told anyone why I really broke up with him, i feel to ashamed.
ReplyKatie - 09/04/2012
Hi Katie, that's a horrible thing to have gone through. I hope you have someone trusted you can talk to about this. If he forced himself on you, this website says that is rape, and that is illegal. Have you thought about taking legal action? At least he could get cautioned by the police or something - maybe if you have a trusted person or call one of the numbers like Childline or something, you could talk to them about how to go to the police?
Jo - 07/05/2012
You shouldn't feel ashamed at all. Its not your fault that he decided to be such an abusive person. I reckon it's a good thing that you spoke out to on this website. If you really want to tell people why you broke up with him, tell them exactly what happened. There is no shame in telling them. Hopefully, they'll understand. I'm sure that everybody on this website can understand.
Matt - 25/04/2012
AMY
08/04/2012
am i the only one who thinks its just a bit sexist that in all these videos its the boy who is being the abusive one? just because its predjudice in the other way then the one we all expect doesn't mean its not still sexist.
ReplyAMY - 08/04/2012
any minute men are going to be the ones needing menanism to get the same treatment as women, (fathers for justice)
rachel - 30/04/2012
Lisa
07/04/2012
well my friends pressure me to do stuff i dont want to do and if i say no they give me a kick in and i think that they tell folk that i am a whimp so i am an easy target for bullys
ReplyLisa - 07/04/2012
Sam
07/04/2012
The videos posted really are quite frightening. I think its important to mention that abuse could happen to either sex, male or female, Its really quite terrifying to see how many people have been abused out there. I mean I've not really been abused but my last girlfriend kept on trying to get me to have sex with her and kept on asking me and than when we broke up she told everyone she knew that i had used her and tried to have sex with her. I know that other people have had much more extreme things happen to them though obviously. I was just wondering what do the 'this is abuse' company do to help people who are the victims of these sort of things and how do other people get involved and help?
ReplySam - 07/04/2012
jc
03/04/2012
very sexist but a girl should be looked after i dont agree on that controlling it stands up to a point girls can take the piss
Replyjc - 03/04/2012