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This is ABUSE

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Abuse in relationships isn’t always physical

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  • p

    04/12/2014

    my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years, everything was okay in the beginning but a rumour was spread about me doing something with another boy that wasn't true and he never spoke to me for months and it broke my heart but about 7 months later we started talking then got back together, we have sex a lot and he argues with me so much and never ever tells me the truth ever, I was in hospital for a week and I had an operation so he said 3 weeks after he'd take me out but he went to his cousins party instead but told me he was with his friend I only found out looking on Facebook at the pictures uploaded. He has a really weird relationship with his sister and one time when I was giving him oral sex he was texting her telling her (I didn't know until after because I was under the cover) our baby has died once, I had a miscarriage, and he left me to go to a club with his sister and again I had a miscarriage and he went out with his cousin after me begging and crying for him to stay with me both times, he has hit me a few times and had grappbed me and I've had so many bruises and he says the most discusting personal things to me. My dad abused me when I was younger and he came to my hometown the other week and my boyfriend after saying he'd protect me didn't talk to me all day and said if anything happened it would be my fault for seeing him. He spits at me and threatens me and I'm so scared but things seem to be okay now, better than they ever have been but I can't stop thinking about everything he's done. I'm only really young but I love him and I know I do but I can't forget about things that have happened.

    Reply

    p - 04/12/2014

    • Hi P
      Thank you for contacting us, it sounds like things have been really difficult for a long time. I am glad that you feel things have improved but I am not surprised that you are still thinking about what has happened previously.

      It sounds like he is being physically and emotionally abusive. You also mentioned you have sex alot, is this something you want to do? It is not ok for him to force you to do things you don't want to do.

      Coping with miscarriage it also incredibly hard, it's a very sad and traumatic thing to go through and it sounds like he wasn't there for you at all. And on top of all that you have the abuse you experienced from your dad and it sounds like that has also had a big impact on you.

      You do not deserve to be treated like this, it is abuse and is against the law. It can be very scary and upsetting and when things seem to be better it's normal to try to hold onto that in the hope that it will stay good, however in reality that doesn't always happen. It is important that you are safe, does anyone else know what has been happening? The more people who support you the better and safer you will be. I know it can be hard to tell people though.

      If you are scared you can always call the police. There is also a 24 national domestic violence freephone number on 0808 2000 247 - they can talk to you and give you advice. You can also tell your GP or other people that you trust. You are not alone and there are lots of places that can help. If you do decide to end the relationship, please do not do this on your own and you may need to change things such as online passwords, routines etc so he can't contact you. I can give you more advice if you need it.

      take care
      Jo

      This is Abuse team - 04/12/2014

  • Danny

    25/11/2014

    Good campaign

    Reply

    Danny - 25/11/2014

  • emma

    23/11/2014

    My partner of 5 years , who I have a 2 year old child with, treats me terrible. He's always angry with me shouts at me calls me horrible names. Makes me feel guilty if I ever want to see friends or my family so I rarely do these days. He's jealous and possessive and I'm very unhappy even tho I do love him. I've recently made a stand against him and managed to get him out of my house, but now he's constantly texting me saying how sorry he is and that he's going to get counselling for his temper, begging me to see him. I'm staying strong at the moment but he's wearing me down bit by bit. The thing is I still love him and dont know if I should give him one more chance?? He also threatens me throws things pushes me etc

    Reply

    emma - 23/11/2014

    • Hi Emma
      Thanks for your message.

      It sounds like your partner has been very emotionally abusive for a long time. I am glad you were able to get him to leave.

      I do understand how hard it is thought, and that you can love someone but still hate how they treat you. It must be especially hard having a child together. However, i do think you did the right thing by asking him to leave. The safety of you and your child has to be the most important thing.

      It is good that he is talking about getting help, but counselling for anger management may not be the best thing as his anger is directed at you and is a form of domestic abuse, not just a loss of control or a temper problem. It would be a good idea for him to get some support regarding his anger but including the context of abuse and for this the best people to speak to are respect who can advise abusers how to get help. You could also ring them to get advice:
      http://www.respectphoneline.org.uk/
      Call freephone 0808 802 4040 Monday-Friday 9am-5pm or email
      info@respectphoneline.org.uk

      It is also important that you are safe, here are some tips:
      http://www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/

      You can also talk to other people such as your GP for support and ring the national domestic violence helpline anytime on 0800 2000 247 for advice and info about local support services.

      It's important that you don't try to cope with this on your own.

      take care
      Jo

      This is Abuse team - 19/12/2014

  • charlotte

    18/11/2014

    I was in a relationship for 11months and my partner used to hit me look at my phone and forced me to have sex with him on a number of occasions.I am no longer with him but I keep having flash backs of what happened I am also on antidepressants I just want to put this behind me but I can't seem to let go.

    Reply

    charlotte - 18/11/2014

    • Hi there

      Thanks for your post. We’re really sorry to hear you’ve experienced relationship abuse. If you’ve being forced or pressured to have sex, or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with, that is totally unacceptable, no one should be putting you in that position. Please understand that what happened was not your fault and there was nothing you could have done to prevent it, don’t blame yourself.

      If you are unsure, examples of sexual abuse or assault can include being touched in a sexual way that makes you feel uncomfortable or frightened (this can be through clothes or not), being forced to watch others engage in sexual activity, being pressured to send naked pictures of yourself, sexting and being made to stimulate yourself or others.

      What’s more, physical abuse is wrong and never ok. It can seriously damage your confidence and your self-worth. Signs of physical abuse can include slapping, kicking, hitting or injuries as a result of violent behaviour.

      If this has happened to you, we would always encourage you to try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable talking to. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and trust. And if they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and happy, and help and support is out there.

      If you’re under 18, you can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem, nothing is too big or small for them. They won’t judge you; they will listen, advise and guide you. Or alternatively you can go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact them by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      If you’re over 18, you can call the National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. They offer counselling and support for women who have experienced any form of sexual violence, not just rape.

      We hope this helps

      Take care
      The This is Abuse Team

      This Is Abuse team 20/11/2014

  • Luana

    25/06/2014

    My comment isn't really about me. My father abuses his wife (my step mum), both physically and emotionally. He controls her finances and constantly belittles her. I don't live with him, but every time I see her she just is a shell of her former self, she used to be so bubbly now she just constantly looks exacerbated. It makes me ashamed that my dad could be an abuser, it disgusts me. Advice?

    Reply

    Luana - 25/06/2014

    • Hi Luana

      Thanks for your post. We’re so sorry to hear about your worries - if you think you have spotted some of the warning signs of abuse, your stepmum may need professional help and your encouragement and support to help to stop it. For more information on the signs, visit this page of the website - http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse/view/spot-the-signs, you might already recognise some of them.

      Tell your stepmum you are really worried about her and let her know that the way she's being treated is not right, it’s not normal, and the abuse is not her fault, it’s unacceptable. Let her know that help and support is available.

      It might be useful to think up a code word that she can use on the phone to let you know she needs help? When you talk to her, try to make her feel at ease as it takes courage to admit abuse. Please encourage her to talk to someone she trusts about this.

      If your stepmum decides to leave the relationship, it’s very important to do so safely; she can find more information and advice how to manage that here - http://www.respectnotfear.co.uk/keepingsafe/59-difficult-to-leave.html, or call Refuge on 0808 2000 247 for further support.

      If your stepmum wants to speak to someone in confidence, encourage her to contact the 24 hour, National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

      That same goes for you too. If you want support and guidance on how to manage the situation, speak to one of the services detailed above, or if you’re under 18, you can speak to ChildLine on 0800 1111 or visit www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      We hope that this helps.

      Take care,
      The This is Abuse team

      This Is Abuse team 25/06/2014

  • samantha

    24/06/2014

    really good information

    Reply

    samantha - 24/06/2014

  • Steven

    09/06/2014

    One of my neighbours is being emotionally abused but she is too scared of her boyfriend to do anything about it. He is a bully.

    Reply

    Steven - 09/06/2014

    • Hi Steven

      Thanks for posting.

      We’re sorry to hear about your worries - if you think you have spotted some of the warning signs of abuse in your friend’s relationship, they may need professional help and your encouragement and support to help to stop it. For more information on the signs, visit this page of the website - http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse/view/spot-the-signs, you might already recognise some of them.

      Tell your friend you are really worried about them and let them know that the way they’re being treated is not right, it’s not normal, and the abuse is not their fault, it’s unacceptable. Let them know that help and support is available.

      It might be useful to think up a code word that they can use on the phone to let you know they need help? When you talk to them, try to make them feel at ease as it takes courage to admit abuse. Please encourage them to talk to a trusted adult, and if their partner has been violent or forced them to have sex, advise them to talk to the police. You shouldn’t confront their partner on your own and neither should your friend. If they decide to leave their relationship, it’s very important they do so safely; they can find more information and advice how to manage that here - http://www.respectnotfear.co.uk/keepingsafe/59-difficult-to-leave.html, or call Refuge on 0808 2000 247 for further support.

      If your friend wants to speak to someone in confidence, encourage them to contact the 24 hour, National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or if they’re under 18, they can speak to ChildLine on 0800 1111 or visit www.childline.org.uk where they can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      That same goes for you too if you want support and guidance on how to manage the situation, speak to one of the services detailed above, they will be able to help you.

      Take care,
      The This Is Abuse Team

      This Is Abuse team 10/06/2014

  • Sarah

    16/05/2014

    I am 26 I have been in a two year relationship where I been having mental abuse and one time physical abuse and get into the point where I feel everything is my fault and I can't make him happy every time I try to talk about it he doesn't want to he shuts me out or puts me down I feel anytime I'm having a good day he just puts me down all the time if am having day day i'm getting to the point now that I've given up trying to talk to him on how he making me feel on what he is doing I just don't know what to do anymore I've tried everything

    Reply

    Sarah - 16/05/2014

    • Hi Sarah

      Thanks for your post, we're really sorry to hear what you've been going through.

      We’re sorry to hear you’ve been suffering abuse in your relationship. Abuse is wrong and never okay, it’s not normal, it can damage your confidence and your self-worth.

      A lot of people who have experienced all kinds of abuse will blame themselves. However, the responsibility lies solely with the abuser, never with you. This can be hard to get your head around but just because the abuse went on for a long time, does not mean you were complicit in this.

      It’s very important to try and find someone you trust to talk to about what’s been happening in your relationship. It could be a parent or other relative, a close friend, or anyone else that you feel comfortable talking to. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there, you’re not on your own.

      You can also call the 24 hour National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge).

      We hope this helps and that you get the support you need and deserve.

      Take care,

      This Is Abuse team 16/05/2014

  • Victoria

    03/05/2014

    I'm 18 and my boyfriend puts me down and makes me miserable, I don't feel like I can disagree with him but whenever I try to get away he guilt trips me into staying with him, last night I asked for some space and was going to stay at a friends house so he poured water over my head and kicked me out in the cold at 3amish and I had to get home via my friend then today he acts all upset but then twists it onto me like I deserved it and made me feel like it was all my fault and I can't get away... What can I do? I really need some help as I don't know where else to turn

    Reply

    Victoria - 03/05/2014

    • Hi Victoria

      Thanks for your post. We’re really sorry to hear you’ve been suffering emotional abuse. Abuse is wrong and never okay, it’s not normal, it can damage your confidence and your self-worth.

      Signs of this type of abuse can include someone putting you down, calling you nasty names, trying to control you and preventing you from doing certain things or making you do things you don’t want to do.

      We would encourage you to find someone you trust to talk to, it’s important you speak up about what you’ve been going through. This doesn’t have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      As you're over 18, you can call the 24 hour National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge).

      We hope this helps

      Best wishes

      This Is Abuse team 07/05/2014

  • 01/05/2014

    rose
    I'm 19 and in my first year at university. I met my partner in the first week and pretty instantly we became inseparable. This was untill he made some new friends and it was very apparent that he was developing a crush on someone else. I broke up with him for this but he persistently stayed in contact as if we were still in a relationship. it wasn't until Christmas when I found pictures on his laptop of this girl naked in bed did I begin to question are little 'break'. the rejection was overwhelming like I couldn't be good enough. He pleaded with me that it was lust and nothing more and I tried to forgive him. a few months down the line and I'm deeply unhappy and insecure so I ask for space and that same evening he sleeps with someone else. we get back to gether and all the truth comes out again. why is it so easy for him to lie to me?! and why am I so intent on taking him back? it's like I can't be angry with him because I didn't give him enough at the start so he looked else where before realising his mistakes then I hurt him so much by asking for space that it justifys his actions because I hurt him.

    along side this there is much else. He will be lovely trying to win me back then as soon as I am his he is horrid. He looks at other girls in front of me an laughs like it's funny that he's been caught. He will get so angry and snap at the silliest things like if I forget to bring something down the stairs or ask him to repete himself. If I say something ditzy I am an idiot. If I chew my food I will get snapped at for making noise he doesn't want to hear. he wil poke me and call me squishy , smelly, point out face imbleshments and laugh.

    I don't understand what I am doing wrong, he can be the most amazing, talented loving thing then it's like his moods just switch and it's always because of something I have done and never his actions.

    i know above makes him sound horrid. Why am I with him? But it's so much more complex I do not see him as an abuser?

    Reply

    01/05/2014

    • Hi Rose

      Thanks for your message. We’re so sorry to hear you’ve been suffering emotional abuse. Signs of this type of abuse can include someone putting you down, calling you nasty names, trying to control you and preventing you from doing certain things or making you do things you don’t want to do.

      A lot of people who have experienced all kinds of abuse will blame themselves. However, the responsibility lies solely with the abuser, never with you. This can be hard to get your head around, as can still loving that person. Again, that is also completely normal and many people are torn between loving the person and hating their behaviour. Just because the abuse went on for a long time, does not mean you were complicit in this. Please remember, you have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about.

      Staying in a relationship where you are being emotionally abused could cause you to lose your self-esteem and confidence. An abusive, violent or controlling relationship is never okay, it’s not normal or acceptable and nobody needs to tolerate this behaviour.

      We would encourage you to find someone you trust to talk to, it’s important you speak up about what you’ve been going through. This doesn’t have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and trust. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does, you have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      As you’re over 18, you can call the 24 hour National Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge).

      We hope that this helps and you get the support you need and deserve.

      Take care,
      The This Is Abuse Team

      This Is Abuse team 02/05/2014

  • P A

    08/04/2014

    Is this comment section only about abuse from a partner? What about a family member?

    Reply

    P A - 08/04/2014

    • Hello P A,

      Thanks for your message. Domestic violence is controlling or threatening behaviour/assault which is carried out by a partner or a family member.
      Some forms of abuse can be physical, sexual or emotional. If you would like more information on domestic violence I would recommend you look at www.womensaid.org.uk

      Take care
      Sarah

      This is Abuse team 08/04/2014

  • K

    07/04/2014

    I have been with my partner 5 months now. We got on great for the first couple of weeks and then arguments started, the arguments started after he met my family and my family accepted him. If I stand up for myself in front of my family I am the bad guy and they tell me to stop treating him that way, but they do not see what goes on behind closed doors. Every time we argue he calls me an ugly bitch or he calls me hanging or a fat bitch. Whatever dress I pick up to wear he says it is too short and it needs to be below the knee length. I am 18 in 10 days most 18 year olds wear short dresses to go out. If a top is too low or too revealing I cant wear it to college or anything, the only time I can wear it is in the bedroom. I dont feel comfortable to take my top off during sexual activity, he knows this but every time we have sex he will always say "sex would be better with your top off". Once we were in the shop and we were looking at the alcohol and I said "not long and I will be able to buy these" being excited for my birthday. His reply was "yeah, doesn't mean you can go out clubbing all the time". When we argue he runs to girls and tells them everything and plans to meet up with them then lies to me about it. In the first 3 months of our relationship he was talking to other girls on facebook and texting them and complimenting them and planning on meeting up with them behind my back. He always looks through my phone but says he is just playing games on it. He has never hit me, but sometimes when he looses him temper I do get a bit scared. Once he really lost his temper started chucking things, punching things and head butting things. I started crying and he said "go on cry, you wont get any sympathy off me". When he is annoyed at me he throws my past relationships in my face saying things like "go run back to him, he is the one that use to hit you, if you can love someone that hit you. Why cant you love me? I have never hit you" there he is referring to my ex boyfriend that hit me. He also says "run back to him" and all those things to me. once he told me that my own family don't like me. In the beginning of the relationship he use to tell his family when we argued and made it all my fault. I started feeling uncomfortable to go to his home. When we argue he wont leave my house either he just sits there with my family, and he knows that I will get into trouble off my family for us arguing and him not leaving. He says to me that every boy flirts with me and looks at me. He says the doesnt like me going out drinking because he doesnt trust other boys and he constantly texts me when I am out and tells me to go home by a certain time

    Reply

    K - 07/04/2014

    • Dear K,

      Thank you for your message. It takes a lot of strength to share what is happening to you. You have been brave to post here and to seek out some support to assist you in the situation you are in at the moment.

      Your boyfriend is being emotionally abusive to you. All the things you write about in your message are ways in which he is controlling you, by putting you down, by dealing with conflict by hitting things and head butting things, buy telling you what you can wear and what you can do. He is also trying to cause problems between you and your family. These are all abusive behaviours and they sound like they might escalate. You have previously been in an abusive relationship, are you seeing any parallels between the ways your current boyfriend is acting and how your previous one behaved? You do not deserve to be treated the way you are being. You should be treated with love and care by the person you are with, and be supported to live your life freely, have friends and experience life. Not told what you can and cannot do or wear or who you can see.

      Your boyfriend is being controlling because he chooses to be. What is happening is not your fault.


      From your message I can see that your family are aware of the relationship and know him – have you explained how abusive it is and that he tries to make you think that they don’t like you? If you can talk to them about your relationship they may be more supportive towards you and not let him sit in the house when you do not want to be around him. If you don’t feel you can’t talk to anyone in your life about what is happening you can call the domestic abuse helpline. You can reach them on 0808 2000 247 - they are open 24 hours a day and will be able to listen to you and discuss your options. The more support you have the better able you will be to decide what to do next.

      As you have been in an abusive relationship before I’m wondering if you have had any support for that. Abuse is traumatic and a lot for a person to cope with alone. If you have not has support, this website is a good place to look for help in your local area.

      www.womensaid.org.uk

      We also have a live chat function on the site 5-7 weekdays.

      Take care,

      Becca


      This is Abuse team 07/04/2014

  • najah

    05/04/2014

    My boyfriend he always say to me come with me at home but I don't believe him old then me he is very strange man and I scared him because I don't wane have a baby iam studies hard can anyone help me

    Reply

    najah - 05/04/2014

    • Dear Najah,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear that you are feeling unable to control the situation you are in at the moment. It’s good that you have had the courage and strength to post here.

      Your message is quite brief but it sounds like you are in a relationship with an older man, who is pressuring you to go back to his house alone, but you are frightened of this and you are frightened that you will be pressurised or forced into sex. That’s a hard situation for you to be in and I wonder if you are able to discuss this with anyone in your life, such as family, friends or a trusted adult? If you feel you can’t talk to anyone in your life you can call the national domestic abuse helpline. You can reach them on 0808 2000 247 - they are open 24 hours a day and will be able to listen to you and discuss your options.

      In your message you describe the man as strange, as you have not given us much information it’s hard to know what you mean by this. Do you think he is a danger to you? If so you could also tell the police. Depending on how old you are and how old he is he may be breaking the law (If you are under 16 and he is over 16).

      If you would like to post another message, or come on to the live chat and tell us a little bit more about what is going on for you at the moment, one of the advisors could maybe give you more specific help. The live chat is open 5-7 weeknights and I would encourage you to get in touch so we can offer you some more support.

      Take care,
      Becca

      This is Abuse team 07/04/2014

  • Laura

    21/03/2014

    I am glad these videos, especially the mental abuse ones are being shown. Until I saw them, I didn't know what I experienced was abuse. My ex, to everyone outside our relationship was seen as the 'nice' guy. A decent, genuinely good guy. But behind closed doors he picked away at my confidence with comments, and looks. First it was my clothes, he didn't think that top, dress or outfit was 'appropriate' for someone in a relationship. Then my friends, he thought they were bad influences on me and had me cut them off, see less of them. Then it was my family, then he didn't want me going anywhere without him because I wasn't 'safe', he'd tell me that I could be attacked if he wasn't there. Then he stopped me going to work for the same reason, telling me he loved me and wanted me safe and at home where he could 'look after me'. While this was all going on he would randomly grope me at any given point if we were both at home. My breasts, my bum, while I was cooking in the kitchen, doing the laundry, general cleaning, or even if I just walked past him. I told him I didn't like it but he carried on and I learned not to argue. My libido vanished because of the groping, I felt dirty and used, and he didn't like that I didn't want to have sex with him. He would try and manipulate me into it 'you would if you loved me, you'll like it once you start'....and then one night it got worse, I woke up to find him having sex with me while I was asleep. I pushed him off, and rolled away, he rolled away and went to sleep, leaving me shaking and in silent tears. I couldn't handle talking about it, I was scared of him, even without knowing why I was, and so I pretended it wasn't happening, but it happened again and again. The only reason I am single now is because he left me for someone else, he'd been having an affair behind my back and he just came home from work, told me and left one day. He did me a favour but now I have been left with this dirty secret I cant talk to anyone about. I haven't told my parents, nor the police. Iv'e only recently found out that sex, while asleep is rape and I feel sick, and dirty, and like I cant ever have a relationship again. I'm too scared of men now. I don't know what to do.

    Reply

    Laura - 21/03/2014

    • Hi Laura,

      Thanks for your message. Domestic abuse very often starts of with emotional abuse, using name calling and other tactics to make us feel worthless. Over time this abuse like in your situation can become physical and sexual. To outsiders our abusers can seem to be the perfect partner making it harder for us to speak out about the abuse as we will fear others will not believe us.

      Abusers who sexually assault and rape us can feel that they have total control over us. No matter if you are in a relationship or not we all have the right to say no to sex. If a person does not respect our wishes and continues this is rape and against the law.

      I would recommend you contact www.womensaid.org.uk and also www.rapecrisis.org.uk who can offer you advice and support.

      Take care
      Sarah

      This is Abuse team 21/03/2014

  • natalie

    06/03/2014

    I need help cause i have just came out ov an abusive marriage not only physical but mentally if someone could give me a newport number 2 speak 2 someone i would really appreciate it thanks xx

    Reply

    natalie - 06/03/2014

    • Dear Natalie,

      Thank you for your message, it takes a lot of strength to survive in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship and to seek help. You have been brave and done that, there is support out there for you.

      You can reach your local women’s Aid centre by following the link below.
      http://www.nptwomensaid.org.uk/

      Take care,
      Becca

      This is Abuse team 07/03/2014

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Stay safe – don't include any personal information in your comments, such as your surname, email address, street address and phone number.

Don't include the personal details of anyone else in your posts (including boyfriend/girlfriend, parents, guardians, teachers, social workers or group leaders).

Don't go off topic - keep your comments relevant to the "This Is Abuse" debate. People want their opinions to be heard – don't shout them down.

Don't post crude, racist, offensive, violent or vulgar messages to the site.

Treat everyone with respect – even if someone has a different view to your own, don't let it get personal.

Don't glamorise illegal or dangerous activities, including violence of any kind. It's ok to talk about your experiences but you shouldn't encourage others to do anything illegal or dangerous.

Don't write anything that's untrue about anyone else (including boyfriend/girlfriend, parents, guardians, teachers, social workers, group leaders and famous people). Don't write anything that could harm anyone else's reputation.

This isn't a dating site – it's a platform to talk about teenage relationship abuse and your opinions on the matter; don't use it to meet or flirt with other people.

Don't write everything in CAPS – it's the equivalent of shouting and isn't polite or easy for everyone to read.

Don't post entire messages in text speak – it's ok to shorten some words but not everyone understands text speak or finds it easy to read.

It's ok to post links to other websites as long as they're relevant to the "This Is Abuse" debate and don't break the house rules in any way.

Don't break copyright rules. This means that you shouldn't post text you didn't write.