If you could see yourself
If you could see yourself, would you see rape?
Sex with someone who doesn't want to is rape.
If you could see yourself, would you see rape?
Sex with someone who doesn't want to is rape.
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09/04/2012
When i was 5 i was sexuelly abused by my cousin. He was 14 at the time and where i was so young i thought it was ok our family's would meet up every week and he would sexuelly touch me and he would make me do things. It went on for 5 years and when i was 10 i started realizing what was going on. Then everytime he would come round i would lock my self in the toilet and wouldnt come out. And when i was 11 he caught me coming out of the toilet and took me to my room and shut the door. He layed on top of me and was kissing me and was taking my trousers off i tried my best to get him off but he was too heavy and he raped me. He then got a girl friend when he was 20 and he stopped coming round. i was always scared he would pop up and rape me again. I was also scared to tell anyone. I ended up telling my best friend and she promised not to tell anyone but she wanted me to tell my parents and i wouldnt. i was too ashamed. My cousin then got dumped by her and then i was really scared. He then went to wales to try and et into a university ad i felt great that he was soo far away, But then he came back because he didnt get in. I am now terrified. I did tell my parents and they helped me loads and promised they would do everything to keep him away. The other day i saw him drive past my house twice and i was in the front garden etting in th car with my mum. I now always feel sick that he would show up and my doorstep because my grandad is ill and they were really close. I dont know what to do...
Reply:( - 09/04/2012
Hi : (
We are sorry to hear about this traumatic incident from your past. We think it is important that even though this may have happened some time ago, that you should try to speak to someone about this if you can.
Being forced or pressured to have sex when you don’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.
If this has happened to you no matter how long ago please try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.
If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.
You can call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.
Alternatively you can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge) 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm.
You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.
Sammy
09/04/2012
I was at a party, and this guy, about 2 years older than me, came up to me and made me feel really special. But then cause I was a little bit tispy, he took me upstairs and forced me to do stuff, I'm not sure if it was rape, becaucse we didn't actually do anything like sex......
ReplyBut I don't k now if this was rape.
Sammy - 09/04/2012
its still rape or at least sexual abuse. its wrong and you should tell somone about it
mystery - 15/04/2012
girl
09/04/2012
when i was very young (5-6) i was friends with older boys one by 1 year and the other by 3 and thay taught me about sex and we did dry humping and like proper penis to fanny thing.i had no idea at the time that this was really wrong and i think about it alot but don't know what to do because i feel ashamed and our parents are best friends.
Replyim 12 know and go to boarding school and the boy a year older then me is there. were sorta friends but every time i talk or look at him i feel like crying. i hope both off them hav forgot about it but i dount know what to do
pls help
thanks xx
girl - 09/04/2012
Hi Girl,
Thank you for being brave and posting your story.
Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with is unacceptable. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.
If you feel you can talk to someone about what has happened, it can help you. Try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with.
If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.
You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.
Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm.
If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.
Someone
09/04/2012
Im not sure if this is rape ? I was at a party and my boyfreind left me on my own for most of it, then his freind, Jamie, came and sat next to me and made me feel really special, when he asked me to come upstairs, I was totally in a daze with him that i agreed.
ReplyWhen I got up there, he closed the door behind him and pushed me down on the bed. He carried on and left me there. I was really ashamed, but Im not sure if it was or if Im just being overdramactic.
But the thing is it happened again, this time with my boyfreind. I told him and when he said he knew, I got really sngry because he was supposed to prorect me. But they he did the same thing X did. I was 16 at the time, im now 18. Ive never even really fancie another boy now knowing what their capable of doing.
Someone - 09/04/2012
In reply to someone I konw bad things have happened to u but don't blame all boys for wat hapend u were just unlucky to pick the rotten apples from the tree but remember there are still red juicy apples to be found
Mushroom - 10/04/2012
anonymous
08/04/2012
even though these videos are touching, i think, you can't go to aparty unaware of the dangers and, me personally wouldn't go out with anyone in a gang :/
Replyanonymous - 08/04/2012
natalia
08/04/2012
well i think men are to vilont and tak a relationship to fast and they dont know that they are hurting the girl they should get punished cause it is not fair
Replynatalia - 08/04/2012
Charley
08/04/2012
hi, i am Charley, i am female just so you know i aint being sexist, i recone this website is a brilliant idea but, why does it always show boys being the bad ones why do it not show any girls being the bad ones as i know people who this has hapend to but it was the girls doing it to the boys and i dont apprecate the way people try and blame the boys for it s i would like to see atleast one video wee the poor boys are the victims
Replyyousincerley Chaley x
Charley - 08/04/2012
i agree there was a lady who raped a guy by using viagra pills.
girl - 15/04/2012
to be honest that is true i am a girl my slef and theere is a girl @ my school tht is abusive
unavalible - 11/04/2012
Helena
07/04/2012
if the man just undress's you or touches you without consent can he still be arrested
ReplyHelena - 07/04/2012
hi, elena
Yes, if this was against someones will, then this is sexual harassment/abuse and is unacceptable.
laura - 11/04/2012
Claire
07/04/2012
my mum was raped when she was little and it makes me sick when i even think why someone would do such a thing. i feel really nervous when a boy shows interest in me. i just dont want to end up with what happened to my mum.
ReplyClaire - 07/04/2012
charlie
07/04/2012
I had several bad experiences when growing up, my uncle was the first to start, he was only groping. Shortly after it was my half brother, I actually thought it was the normal and he told me not to tell anyone. I remember one time was in a tent in my room we put up for my friend staying over ( i was around aged 7) in the morning i woke up to find my brother in the tent (my friend out of the tent and in my bed) i told him not to but he continued (my brother aged 11). A few years passed i was around the age 11 and now my brother 15, i was over at my nans in the spare bedroom where we would play, my cousin came over ages around 16 at the time, i didnt hear what my brother said but all i knew was my cousin was on the move to the bed where i was, he started to grope me and started to kiss me. My brother just sat the on the playstation and allowed this to happen, next my brother left the room and my cousin grabbed my hand and put it down his pants. Shortly after i was abused. my nana then took us to the swimming baths where my cousin came in my changing room and tried it on again, i told him to get out, i left and my nana was just coming around the corner. Now everytime i see them all i feel uncomfortable, i had a boyfriend around year 9 (aged around 13) after a year of on and off relationship, he invited me to stay the night, i knew he wasnt the type to want to just have sex and leave, i just couldnt face it. But now i have a boyfriend who i have been with for 10months, we had sex really early in our relationship, only because he made me feel so safe with him, of course i was nervous but all im trying to say is hopefully one day everyone who has been abused will be able to trust someone one day (aged 17 now by the way) Keep strong
Replycharlie - 07/04/2012
Ella
07/04/2012
I haven't been abused in anyway, but i watched the advert and thought to myself how could it be prevented? is it possible that this situation would never come true, could someone stop it from happening before it is too late?
ReplyElla - 07/04/2012
bdgd
07/04/2012
i tink that it is really important that this metter is hightlighted because a lot of the time men or woman are to scared to tell anyone there promblem and have no to go .there is a really good progam callled "i never said yes " which expalins the thing that people go thought and what was done
Replybdgd - 07/04/2012
Tyler
06/04/2012
Hello,
Replyim 11 and i get scared of rape everytime a boy or man looks at me i think 'hes going to rape,me or do something to me i get scared even if a boy or men just gives me 1 look.
This clip is awful but helps the rapest to think before he does.
Thanks x
Tyler - 06/04/2012
sharlene
06/04/2012
this is totaly true !
Replymy nieber got raped a fter that she didnt even want to her the word 'rape'
sharlene - 06/04/2012
The Industry Hater
06/04/2012
I think this message will make guys want to rape women even more. Why? Its a psychological thing. For the men that have watched this, this clip is stored in their brain. Now, the brain is programmed to these kind of things, even though we've been told it is abuse. Subconsciously we don't know we do these things, but because the brain has seen these kind of actions, it responds to the time and place on what we do.
ReplyFor example, as we all know "Smoking Kills". However, people still buy cigarettes because of what they see in the cigarette boxes. We see a man with a tumor coming out of his throat, or lungs blacked out by tar. These images are stored in the brain, and instead of PREVENTING SMOKING BY NOT THINKING about it, you are actually thinking about it through the images that you remember seeing in the cigarette boxes. This then leads people to actually want to buy cigarettes.
The only way we can prevent these things from happening in a party, is to prevent the party from happening overall, as this can lead to other abuses. Sexual, drugs and other stuff. Just don't think about it, but know what's right and prevent it from happening. I hope this helps
The Industry Hater - 06/04/2012