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This is ABUSE

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If you could see yourself

If you could see yourself, would you see rape?

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  • n o n a m e

    27/12/2012

    erm, i was young and a boy asked me if i had a bf and i said no when i did but he put me on the bed and pinned me down and hurt my wrists and when i said let me go he was just saying kiss me first he kept hurting me.

    I tried to get away but he said no kiss me after a while i did on the cheek but then he kept kissing me but i kept my lips closed but he said do it so i did and then i ran, i have only ever told 3 friends in a truth thing but they didnt understand, he's kind of family and it awkward when we meet as i dont think he remembers but i cant forget...

    Reply

    n o n a m e - 27/12/2012

    • Hi Noname

      Thanks for getting in touch, we are sorry that you have had a bad experience with someone close to your family.

      Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with is unacceptable. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

      If you are being put under pressure to have sex when you don’t want to try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.
      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.

      Tempero Moderation 28/12/2012

  • rajeev

    27/12/2012

    I feel the abuse advert on tv is helpful in raising awareness of such incidents, but as someone who suffered months and months of abuse from someone, every time i see this advert it reminds me of everything that happens and makes it harder for me to move on from my past and what has happened. as i said i understand that this is to help people suffering but at the same time it is very distressing for someone in my situation.

    Reply

    rajeev - 27/12/2012

    • Hi Rajeev

      Thank you for your feedback, we are sorry to hear about this traumatic incident from your past
      and sorry to hear that you find the advert distressing.

      We do realise that this is an extremely sensitive subject. We also realise that the advert is confrontational and difficult to watch, particularly for someone who has been a victim of rape.

      The advert was developed with the help of several charities who work with people who have been affected by this issue and was also researched with young people prior to being made. Working with those charities, we did consider that the advert may be distressing to some victims of rape, however, our research shows that there are large numbers of teenagers (both male and female) who view this sort of behaviour as normal and/or just something that you put up with. Our objective for this campaign is to ensure that we improve understanding of consent among young people – in order that we prevent future cases of rape and encourage people who have experienced this to get help. I hope you understand that we need to tackle these issues in order to help people realise that this behaviour isn’t acceptable and signpost them to places they can get help.

      The reason for it being shown on national television is an attempt to reach as many people as possible, creating national awareness of a national problem, however, we also appreciate that this may mean that victims of rape may see the advert and find it distressing. If you would find it useful we can send you a copy of the media schedule, please post again and leave your email address so that we can follow this up with you.

      We have already seen, in the response to the advert on this website, that it is proving helpful in enabling young people to rethink their attitudes towards rape. It is also helping people who have been victims of rape, in very similar circumstances to the scene in the advert, recognise for the first time that they were raped and then go on to seek help and support they need.

      We are truly sorry to hear of your distress and hope you understand why we have made the advert. If you need advice, you can call Rape Crisis (0808 802 9999 - 12 - 2.30pm and 7 - 9.30pm) who can offer support whether you’ve just experienced something or you are having difficulties about something that has happened in the past. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      Tempero Moderation 27/12/2012

  • Roseleigh

    27/12/2012

    Hi I'm finding this website very useful but I need some advice.My boyfriend has been trying to feel me, I keep hinting that I don't want it but I just feel harsh and Fridgid.

    I feel really skanky doing that in public places but I cannot help it it just happens. When we've been kissing he's moved my hand onto his penis but on his jeans but when I move it away he just puts it back. What should I do ?

    Reply

    Roseleigh - 27/12/2012

    • Hi Roseleigh

      Thank you for contacting us, we are sorry to hear that you are having problems with your boyfriend.

      Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with is unacceptable. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

      If you are being put under pressure to have sex when you don’t want to try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.

      Tempero Moderation 27/12/2012

  • Chloe

    26/12/2012

    I feel the abuse advert on tv is helpful in raising awareness of such incidents, but as someone who suffered months and months of abuse from someone, every time i see this advert it reminds me of everything that happens and makes it harder for me to move on from my past and what has happened. as i said i understand that this is to help people suffering but at the same time it is very distressing for someone in my situation.

    Reply

    Chloe - 26/12/2012

    • Hi Chloe,

      Thank you for your feedback on the subject.

      Chloe, we are sorry to hear that you find the advert distressing after your own experience.

      We do realise that this is an extremely sensitive subject. We also realise that the advert is confrontational and difficult to watch, this is because it’s a very real representation of a very real problem as we are sure you are aware.

      Research shows that there are large numbers of teenagers (both male and female) who view this sort of behaviour as normal and/or just something that you put up with.

      Our objective for this campaign is to improve understanding of what is and isn’t acceptable sexual behaviour, thereby helping people to recognise and name sexual abuse and rape as such.

      The advert was developed with the help of several charities who work with people who have been affected by this issue and was also extensively researched with young people prior to being made.

      The reason for it being shown on national television is an attempt to reach as many people as possible, creating national awareness of a national problem. We have already seen, in the response to the advert on this website, that it is proving helpful in enabling young people to rethink their attitudes towards rape.

      We are truly sorry to hear of your distress and hope you are in a better position following your ordeal. Nevertheless, we hope that you can appreciate the need to address this very serious issue.

      Tempero Moderation 26/12/2012

  • James

    24/12/2012

    One of my female friends was raped earlier today, she asked me not to tell anyone.

    I can keep secrets but not this one, I know she'll be upset with me but this is for her own good really...

    Could I please have some advice on how to ask her to tell the police or others?

    I don't want her to suffer any more than she has already.

    Reply

    James - 24/12/2012

    • Hi James,

      Thank you for your enquiry concerning your friend
      and the ordeal she has unfortunately experienced.

      Being forced or pressured to have sex when someone doesn’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Speak to your friend and help her understand that this was not her fault and there was nothing she could have done to prevent this.

      It is important to listen to your friend and be there for her as she will be upset about what has happened. Having a friend like you will be a huge help to her as well as a great source of comfort. Be patient and slowly encourage your friend to call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about the problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you they can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

      Tempero Moderation 24/12/2012

  • Anon15

    24/12/2012


    Ok so this is what happened my boyfriend and i were at his house and he is usually really responsible like me so his mom trusted us alone for like two days. i spent the night because he's leaving to a vacation to utah soon so i wanted to hang out with him.

    so we were upstairs in his room watching tv and he asked me if i was a virgin and i told him that i was so he asked if i wanted to be and i told him yeah i did and why he cared he said cause he is and he doesn't want to be but he only doesn't want to be with me. so i said i felt uncomfertable talking about it and if we could change the subject so he said sure.

    then when we were upstairs his friends came over and their both boys by the way so we were upstairs and they started sitting all close and i asked them to scoot away so they did then we'll just call him marco told me if i wanted to play truth or dare so i said maybe later.

    So then marco(not real names) told me to take my shirt off and i told him no then my bf and lets call him adrian told me i should just take it off. then my bf said while your at it take off your pants and bra and underwear and i told him i think i want to go home and they said i have to stay.

    then marco got up and locked the door and put a chair in front of it then they turned the tv up really loud. then they started taking off my clothes and i tried to stop them but they were all like 2 years older than me so it was like nothing i could do.

    then i tried to run away but my bf and adrian pulled me back on the bed then adrian told me "this will hurt less if you don't struggle oh and if you scream i'll make this hurt more" then he put a bandana over my mouth. and he did things to me and he raped me for like two hours

    then my bf said i want a turn so he raped me but my boyfriend didnt just use his thing he used other stuff then he raped me for a while. then marco raped me too.

    then adrian put a blindfold on me and told some guy to come in and he told the guy that he can rape me if he wants and the guy said yes so he raped me and that guy raped me for along time. once the guy got off of me and shut the door they took the blindfold off and told me to keep the bandana on my mouth so i did nt scream.

    then he told me my mom was coming to get me in a few hours so to go get myself together. so i did and when my mom came over he told me if i tell her he will do that all to me again except next time it will be worse so i havent told her yet. i dont know if i should tell her i am scared he will find out then he will rape me again so i am kinda scared i am 15 and my bf is 17

    Reply

    Anon15 - 24/12/2012

    • Hi Anon15, thanks you for your post.

      We realise it must have been difficult for you to share this and we’re sorry to hear about your traumatic experience. What your boyfriend and his friend did is rape and a crime. Please understand this was not your fault and there was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

      It is understandable that you are scared to talk to your mother especially when your boyfriend has threatened you. However, it’s really important that you do speak to someone about what happened so that you can get help to be safe and also help you to move on from it.

      If you don’t feel confident talking to a parent, please try another trusted person whether that’s another relative, a teacher, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.
      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

      Tempero Moderation 27/12/2012

  • Anon13

    23/12/2012

    These comments are so depressing and like one with the rude boys the exact thing happened to me.

    One was hiding behind a locker (my boyfriend) when he jumped out and started feeling me up. Later on when i was walking home he came up behind me and started to kiss me. I pulled away and said no but he just continued and put his tongue in my mouth.

    We had only been going out for a day and did not feel ready but had a tight hold and wouldnât let go. He walked me home acting really creepy and when i got back my parents were out so he came in.

    He started trying to put his hands down my pants. He dragged me up to my room and lay me on my bed i was so scared and didnt know what to do. he pinned me down and started to undress me. He had sex with me and stayed the night because my parents were stuck from the flood. At school he told everyone that it was the best night of mine and his life and kept on raping me in alleyways after this is still going on and i dont know what to do

    Reply

    Anon13 - 23/12/2012

    • Hi Anon13, thanks for posting and we’re sorry to hear what you are going through.

      You’ve made an important first step by sharing your story on here. Please understand this was not your fault and there was nothing you could have done to prevent this. Your boyfriend’s behaviour is not acceptable; it’s rape and a crime and there is help out there for you.

      Please try and find someone you trust to talk to about it. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

      Tempero Moderation 27/12/2012

  • Jazz

    21/12/2012

    Unfortunately my friend was recently nearly a victim of rape.

    She is my best friend and she told me but told me not to tell anyone and I am finding it really hard at the moment and I needed to tell someone

    Reply

    Jazz - 21/12/2012

    • I think you should tell some one she may be your best Freind
      but some on has committed a crime you really need to tell some one

      Anonymous - 24/12/2012

    • Hi Jazz,
      Thank you for your post and your concern for your friend.

      Being forced or pressured to have sex when someone doesn’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Speak to your friend and help them understand that this was not their fault and there was nothing they could have done to prevent this.

      You should encourage your friend to call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about the problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you they can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

      Tempero Moderation 21/12/2012

  • Sarah

    20/12/2012

    i am fifteen and have slept with four boys, which may seem bad..i know but the one time i was trying to fit in so i lost my virginity which i was to blame but the second time i was so drunk and unable to hardly walk? with this boy i know but i dont ever speak too, is this rape? or was this my fault?

    also one of the last times, i was at a party with the influence of drink.. i was doing different things with this boy but not sex.. well i was quite drunk and he never warned me but he 'slipped it in' and then we had sex? was this my fault also for being drunk? im confused

    Reply

    Sarah - 20/12/2012


    • Hi Sarah, thanks for your post.

      Please don’t feel pressurised by your peers into having sex as there is no rush or competition. It's a fact that the average age for having sex for the first time is 16, the legal age, and many people prefer to wait until they’re older. Sexual relationships also come with consequences; risks like unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

      Rape is when a man forces his penis into the mouth, anus or vagina of another person when that person doesn't want him to do so; the law calls this 'without consent'. Being forced or pressured to have sex when you don’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Communication between both parties in a relationship is essential; Just because you didn’t say “no” does not mean you gave your consent. This is a crime regardless of whether you have been drinking or not.

      Your confusion is understandable; a lot of people who have experienced abuse will blame themselves. However, the responsibility lies solely with the abuser, never with you. This can be hard to get your head around. Please remember, you have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about.

      Please try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can confide in.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

      You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted.

      You can find out more about rape and sexual assault here: http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse/view/rape-sexual-assult

      Tempero Moderation 21/12/2012

  • angela

    20/12/2012

    Please i want to bring a charge against the man that raped me from the age of 10 and a half till i was around 16, i was not the only one there are many others.

    Please help me do this this man is out and free and is still very much a predator

    Reply

    angela - 20/12/2012

    • Hi Angela,

      Thanks for your post.

      It's extremely positive that you're taking this step for yourself, as a rape survivor, and also to protect others from this individual. Being forced or pressured to have sex when you don’t want to is a crime. You must contact the police on 999 to press charges against your abuser.

      Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted.

      It may also help to find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can confide in.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively, you can call the National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm.


      Tempero Moderation 20/12/2012

  • Jo

    19/12/2012

    I am unsure if I have been abused/sexually assaulted. A close friends partner, after a few drinks one attempted to undo my belt, button/fly, whilst I was trying to console a female friend on the phone who thought she was being broken into. I know this probably sounds far fetched but its true.

    I pushed his hands away and shook my head, mouthing NO, but he didn't stop and kept trying to get into my jeans! I ended up hiding in a locked bathroom until my friend on the phone came and picked me up. Was I sexually abused??

    He didn't physically force me to do anything. Since it happened I have been unable to leave my home, I have questioned my behaviours, the way I interact with people, to the point everytime I think about it I am reduced to tears. I've told my mum and my phone friend, they want to 'sort him out', and I still have yet to tell his partner, my long term friend who will be devastated with what he tried to do......

    Sorry to go on help guidance opinions greatly received.

    Reply

    Jo - 19/12/2012

    • Hi Jo,

      Thanks for your message. There's no question this man's behaviour was inappropriate, invasive and deeply intimidating. Being pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with, is unacceptable.

      A lot of people who have experienced all kinds of abuse will blame themselves, but you made it clear to this individual that you were not interested in any form of intimacy. As such, the responsibility lies solely with him, not with you. Please remember, you have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about.

      You mention that you have spoken to your mother and a friend. You might now consider speaking to someone qualified to offer professional advice in these situations.

      You can call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.

      Take care.

      Tempero Moderation 20/12/2012

  • NoName

    19/12/2012

    I went to a party, I did go upstairs with him but I didn't want to do it...

    we kissed but I said no, so many times... he still tried to but I managed to get away.

    I think it is my fault how he go it out and put a condom on... but is it my fault?

    What is it that he did to me?

    Reply

    NoName - 19/12/2012

    • Hi Noname,
      Thank you for your post.

      Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you didn’t feel comfortable with was unacceptable.
      Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

      If you are being put under pressure to have sex when you don’t want to try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.

      Tempero Moderation 20/12/2012

  • Louise

    18/12/2012

    I was raped in July. He couldn't face the fact that I didn't want to have sex with him as he had already told his mates that it was going to happen then, so raped me.

    I've told a few mates but I don't think that I can tell my parents or report it, as I just want to forget that it happened and telling would have the complete opposite affect.

    Reply

    Louise - 18/12/2012

    • Hi Louise,

      Thanks for your message, we were sorry to read your story. It must have taken courage for you to face up to the events of July, even if it meant speaking out to us as strangers. But this was just the beginning; while it might seem right to want to push this traumatic experience to the back of your mind, in the long run, suppressing what happened to you may do more harm than good.

      It does not matter if you were in a relationship with this boy or if he was a friend. When someone makes you do something you do not want to do, it means you are not consenting, and it is rape. It also does not matter if you started out by saying yes and then changed your mind, or if you feel like you 'gave in'. It is also never OK to make someone feel bad if they don't want to have sex - this is a form of emotional abuse.

      You mention that you confided in a few friends, but perhaps it's time to look elsewhere to be listened to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call the National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

      Take care.

      Tempero Moderation 19/12/2012

  • Esther

    18/12/2012

    My friend pushed me into the boys toilet then started to it felt nice for a bit then i said STOP then he started to say why then pushing me in when he was done he said that was enough.

    I keep on blaming myself what should I do?

    Reply

    Esther - 18/12/2012

    • Hi Esther,

      Thanks for your message. You're absolutely right to be concerned about your friend's behaviour towards you; it was an act of violence, neither normal nor okay, and to be clear, it was against the law.

      A lot of people who have experienced all kinds of abuse will blame themselves. However, the responsibility lies solely with your friend, not with you. Please remember, you have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about.

      It will help to talk to someone. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can trust.

      If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

      You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

      Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

      You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted.

      You can find out more about rape and sexual assault here: http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse/view/rape-sexual-assult

      Tempero Moderation 19/12/2012

  • ellie

    18/12/2012

    one of my close friends sister was raped and she took it abit too much and i think she was ashamed of her self and committed suiced..
    .
    if it does happen to anyone then you need to tell your parents, close friends, brothers/ sisters, family and the police so they can stop who ever is doing it to STOP before they do it again.

    theres no reason to feel ashamed of your self cause it wasnt your fault.

    just saying dont tell anyone because that will make you feel more aloone then telling someone.

    Reply

    ellie - 18/12/2012

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