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Abuse in relationships isn’t always physical, it can come in many different forms, but it's mainly when someone tries to control, intimidate or hurt their partner. It can happen to anyone regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality, disability, wealth and lifestyle.

Typical examples are:
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    pressuring someone to have sex by saying things like "If you loved me you would"

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    trying to control your partner by checking their texts and voicemails

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    getting angry or jealous when they want to spend time with their friends

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    Using threatening language or hurtful names

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    hitting them

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    Pressuring someone into sexting

Using violence and intimidation to control your partner is never ok. It’s abusive and there are no excuses.

You may not even realise you've done it, but if you recognise the signs now you can stop yourself turning into someone you don't want to be. Abuse can lead to a loss of confidence and harm the futures of both people in the relationship. Most importantly, forcing or pressuring someone to have sex with you is illegal – always respect your partner's wishes.

Do any of the above examples apply to you in any way?

Do you want to stop yourself? Get help and advice here.

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