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  • lucy

    26/03/2014

    I do not have a situation like these other people. Ive been meeting this boy who at first seemed really nice but he kept askimg me for a video masturbating. I said no but he kept going on asking me if i trusted him or not. This made me feel bad so i agreed and sent one. Whenever hes angry he will threaten to show everyone and will call me dirty and say hes 'embarressed' by mee. I feel like i cant leave him because of the video and im scared of his reaction. Me and him have regular sex and hes called us friends with benefits but i thought there was feelings involved. Well for me there is i really like him and he knows that.

    lucy - 26/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Lucy,

      Thanks for coming forward to talk about this. It must be really difficult for you.

      If he were to ever do anything with the video you have sent him then he will be breaking the law, as it is not his video, it is your video because you made it. So if he did then you could go straight to the police.

      You should never feel pressured in to doing anything, and by pressuring you into making the video he is being abusive.

      There is some really great guidance on this on the Childline Website, take a look here; http://www.childline.org.uk/explore/onlinesafety/pages/sexting.aspx

      It sounds like the relationship you are in is really abusive, and it does not sound like you are being given respect by this guy. I think you need to consider whether this relationship is healthy for you or not, and what you do once you have made the decision.

      If you would like to talk to us more about what has happened then you can chat with us on the site Monday to Friday 5pm until 7pm.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 29/03/2014

  • Luke

    26/03/2014

    Hi, i need help, my friend had been sexually abused last year, she didnt want to tell anyone accept me, im the only one who knows, she didnt want me to say it to anyone else or the police. Im really worried, she has been putting suicidal statuses on facebook. I dont want to lose her, please can i have some advise, should i tell the police?

    Luke - 26/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Luke
      It is really good that you got in touch with us, she is lucky to have you as a friend.

      Ok, in terms of the suicidal status -it is very important that she gets some help as soon as possible - you can report this to facebook by filling in this form: https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/305410456169423
      There is also a really great organisation who support young people who are feeling suicidal - please tell her about them or contact them yourself to get advice - http://www.papyrus-uk.org/
      0800 068 41 41
      email: pat@papyrus-uk.org
      SMS: 07786 209697

      it is really really important that you tell people what is happening as it will help keep her safe. This is some advice on how to support friends that I think will help you:
      http://www.papyrus-uk.org/support/for-friends
      I know she did not want the police to know, but if you are really worried that she may try to end her life, it is ok to contact them or someone else who can help.

      Sexual assault is hugely traumatic and it sounds like she also needs support in coping with that. Is she still in contact with the person who assaulted her?
      The best people to talk to are rape crisis who are lovely and will be able to listen to her confidentially and give her support which could really help her and how she is feeling:
      http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/
      freephone helpline
      0808 802 9999
      12 - 2.30pm
      7 - 9.30pm

      I really hope this helps.
      We also have a live chat every mon-fri night from 5-7 which you or her could come to?
      Well done for supporting her, you may need to get support yourself though as it can be hard for you too,
      take care
      jo

      This is Abuse team - 27/03/2014

  • Ashley

    26/03/2014

    Hey, I got out of a two year relationship with my ex in December. Honestly when I first met him, he was the nicest guy, always telling me I'm beautiful and making me feel special. Then after about four months in the relationship he started losing his temper if I went out and there was any lads. Eventually he started going through my phone, calling me a slag for having male friends. It got to the point I had to delete every guy in my friends list. Then I was banned from seeing my friends or family as he thought I was a slut around them all. I began sneaking to see them every time I had a dinner break at college. I then started panicking in case someone had seen me. I felt so alone that I started crying myself to sleep every night, he had turned his family against me. Telling them lies about me, eventually his mother refused to feed me and he had full control over my money. So I barely got any to buy food with. I became scarily thin. Then when we got our first flat together he became more angry, threatening me, pinning me against the wall by my neck. Slapping me a few times. I became so scared that I waited until he fell asleep, I packed my bags and left him in the middle of the night. He eventually found me and promised me he had changed, yet he hadn't. It all started again. Then I moved back in with my parents, he shortly followed me there. He hated it because he had no control anymore. My mother would stick up for me if he didn't like what I was doing. I then moved a few doors away so I was still safe. One night I got so angry, he'd been shouting at me and I caught him doing drugs. I don't know what came over me but I punched him in the nose and broke it. I felt instantly horrible, but at the same time I felt stronger. Bit-by-bit I began ignoring him, answering him back. Whenever he went to hit me I stood up for myself. I stopped being scared and one day I decided I didn't want to be there anymore so I packed my bags and finally left him. I've never looked back since and I'm actually disappointed it took me so long to leave him because I'm so happy. I've built myself up and I'm doing excellent now. Honestly I written this to show everyone you can leave whenever you want. And there is a light at the end of that tunnel :)

    Ashley - 26/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Ashely,

      I'm really glad that you're out of the relationship. It sounds like he used a whole host of abusive behaviour.

      I would never encourage anybody to use violence against their partner, unless there is no other option as a form of self defence, but even this can be very dangerous and isn't recommended. The main reason for this, is if your ex partner called the police you could have been charged with assault.

      I'm really glad you're out of the relationship, and many victims stay with their partner far longer than you have, so don't let that get you down.

      Have you thought about accessing any help now that you're out of the relationship? You may benefit from some counselling, or therapeutic work. You can find services near you by calling the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 27/03/2014

  • Glynis

    26/03/2014

    My husband lays in bed every morning till 10- 11am.Then gets up & moans till he leaves a couple of hours later. i don't usually see him again cause he goes to the pub for about 9 hours straight, getting home at between 10.30 & 2am. He then makes lots of noise to wake me up & talks to me for 1-2 hours [ i just want to sleep] Then he goes to bed and sleeps cause of the drink & i am wide awake! Every day is the same [including sundays]

    Glynis - 26/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Glynis,

      It sounds like it's tough for you. Unfortunately, from what you have said it doesn't seem that the relationship is abusive, as you've not suggested that he is doing anything to hurt or cause fear, and that he is doing nothing to gain power or control.

      However, if you are in an unhappy relationship then it is really important to address this. If your husband makes you so unhappy have you thought about leaving? If you would like to talk this through then you can call the Samaritans on 08457 909090.

      You can also talk to us on our Live Chat service which we are running on the website, Monday to Friday 5pm-7pm.

      If there has been any kind of violence or abuse, then you could also contact the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 27/03/2014

  • Anonymous

    26/03/2014

    I'm a 16 year old boy and I've started a relationship with a girl who's in the school year above me (she's 17) we are both actively involved in scouting and at the moment in the same section. but in 8 months or so she'll be 18 and leaving and there are rules against adults,which is what she'll be and explorers (me) being involved in a romantic or even a friendship way. What can we do?

    Anonymous - 26/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi,

      Thanks for getting in contact. It sounds like a tough decision needs to be made. If you are in a committed relationship, and still are in 12 months then you may have to consider whether one of you leaves the scout troop to continue the relationship.

      Legally, you are both consenting adults and are allowed to have a relationship together. However, I can't give guidance on Scouting rules. It may be worth talking to somebody senior within the troop and raise your issues there.

      I hope this helps.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 27/03/2014

  • Anon

    26/03/2014

    I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years; I've read the other comments and can see many similarities between my situation and theirs. After about 6 months of being together he became verbally and mentally abusive towards me, with outbursts where it becomes physical. The reason behind this is he's been a drug user for most of his life, using marijuana since a young age, and cocaine for nearly as long. Since we met I've spent all my energy trying to help him get clean, like he says he wants to. After this amount of time trying so desperately to help, I have got to a point where I feel helpless and can't go through any more. When he gets into a rage he gets very aggressive towards me, pushing me into things and grabbing at my neck. However, my problem is that now I don't want to be together anymore, he threatens me in any way he can to scare me into changing my mind. I've tried numerous times in the last year to end it with him, and each time I've been forced to change my mind. This is because I've always lied to my friends and family about our relationship, telling them we're happy, so when he threatens to hurt me, or himself, or to come to my family home I get terrified. I really don't want to get my family involved, and just want to be able to leave him without upsetting them too. I do love him very much, which makes it very hard, but I have put over 2 years of my life into the relationship and feel so unhappy. I've never spoken about this to anyone, so any help would be really appreciated

    Anon - 26/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi,

      It sounds like a really tough relationship to be in, and I'm glad that you've come forward to talk about this.

      It sounds like you partner's behaviour is quite dangerous, and grabbing the throat is often a sign of extreme violence, and I am concerned for your wellbeing.

      It's really important to know that your partner has to take responsibility for his actions, he is choosing to behave this way towards you. I can imagine that he does not behave this way towards his friends, or family members. He is choosing to behave this way towards you.

      We understand that substance use can increase the risk of violence, however it is not the sole reason that your partner is behaving this way. If he wished to address the way he was behaving towards you then he could access support around his substance use.

      There are services out there that can help and support him, but he has to choose to do that, you can't force it.

      It seems that you have done all you can, and I'm really worried about your safety and wellbeing. I think it would be really helpful for you to talk to someone about what has been happening. We are running Live Chat sessions from the website Monday to Friday 5pm until 7pm. You can also call the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247. They will be able to make sure you are as safe as possible, and that you access some emotional support. They aren't going to force you to leave your partner, but will help you keep safe.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 27/03/2014

  • Stephanie

    25/03/2014

    Hi i was in a relationship for two years with my ex and throughout it him and his family and friends mentally abused me and i got very bad depression and anxiety from it all. He put me in debt accused me of cheating when i talked to my friends wouldn't let me leave the house even to exercise his mum called me names and i always had to clean her house they used to gang up on me and i felt trapped i didn't want to tell my parents incase they got hurt she used to threaten me by saying she can get people to.kill people for her and anytime i didn't want to do something i was uncomfortable with my ex used to say that i didn't love him and manipulate me every time. I always had to bring him out on dates and he cheated on me and flirted with girls when i. Was with him.and worst of all i got myself 2 ........ and when i couldn't take no more i said i wanted the ......... with me and he said no and sold them on. Now I have Flash backs of the relationship I am.stressed out with the 4000 debt I am in i can't be around people for to long or trust them anymore. My depression gets worse as I got heavy when I was with him and couldn't excersise and now I can't even stand to look at myself in the mirror for two long he used to hit me aswell but I never did anything to stop it and I didn't go to the police about any of this and don't know if I still can. I don't want another girl going through what I went through with him.

    Stephanie - 25/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hello Stephanie

      Thanks for contacting us as it must have taken a lot of courage to post the message and share your experience with us. Thankfully, it sounds like you have managed to free yourself from a very abusive relationship but I can hear that you are still struggling to come to terms with what has happened both practically and emotionally. It can take a significant period of time to overcome the effects of abuse and one thing that can help with this is having some emotional support for yourself. Would you be able to talk to someone you trust about what has happened? Maybe a friend or your GP perhaps.

      If you call the national helpline on 0808 2000 247 they will be able to tell you about local services in your area that could offer you support. Some places run specialist groups for women who have experienced abuse that you might find helpful. Your GP could also arrange some individual sessions (a bit like counselling) which would give you strategies to manage the memories that come back and upset you again - these sort of reactions are common but there are services out there that can help.

      Your local area should also have a special worker called an IDVA(Independent domestic violence advocate) who could perhaps help you sort out some of the debt that he has left you with. Again the helpline will be able to give you these details. I know it can feel daunting to phone someone you don't know and seek help but the you have a right to be supported with this and the services are there to help. Alternatively, we offer live chat sessions Mon - Fri 5 -7 if you would prefer to chat to us initially instead. I hope that helps as a starting point

      take care
      Linda

      This is Abuse team 26/03/2014

  • qudsiah

    25/03/2014

    can u cal me plz tommorow i need advise regarding a situation ive been.through

    qudsiah - 25/03/2014

    Reply
    • Dear qudsiah,

      Can you message again with a bit more information. Or contact us on live chat 5-7 weeknights?

      take care,

      Becca

      This is Abuse team 26/03/2014

  • Alexandra

    25/03/2014

    Hi, I've been in a relationship with a guy for just over two years and we have been engaged for about a year but now I'm struggling to cope and everyone's telling me I'm in a abusive relationship. I wondered if I really am. My fiancé has a history of heavy drugs and alcohol use and fighting, which resulted in him getting his head bashed against a wall a few years ago. This has left him with memory loss, depression, sometimes a warped out look on life such as extreme racism and not understanding other peoples feelings. We've always had problems even in the beginning such as I caught him using dating sites, section other girls and had pictures of them on his phone but as it was a long distance relationship I was under the impression it had stopped. I quit my job and left my family and my life behind to move 2 and a half hours to live with him about 6 months ago and since then things have gone from bad to worse. He has continued heavily drinking on a regular basis and when ever this happens he gets very aggressive and abusive saying things such as I'm ugly, boring, he doesn't know why he ever got together with me, he thinks I should go back to my parents house for a few weeks so he can go out with the lads and get drunk and bring girls home to sleep with, he's been disrespectful about my family also and I've also caught him texting girls again asking for dirty pictures or for them to come to our house when I'm away. I've got to the point now where no matter what terrible things he's said or done I have to just say 'ok darling I agree but we'll talk about it in the morning' because I know when he's in that state there's no talking to him. I can't drive and I'm not working so I'm stuck in his house 24.7 and the only people I am around is him and his parents, who blame me for all of the arguments because he doesn't tell them the reason we argued (what he said and did) and they are very protective over him because of his injury in the past. My family are all petrified and want me to leave him as he is getting worse, seems to have no respect for me when drunk and partly when sober. The most recent argument he pinned me done to the bed cause I wouldn't let his female friend who I'd just let sleep in the bed with us so I got scared and bit him to get him off me and he got me arrested for common assault and sat in a cell for 9 hours because he said I'd attacked him out of no where and didn't tell them I was defending myself. My confidence has hit rock bottom due to him putting me down on a regular basis which I believe is to make me feel worthless so I can't leave him for do someone else. I know I should leave him but I do love him and when things are good id happily stay with him. I also feel like he needs me and I'd be abandoning him if I left and he'd go straight back into his depression etc

    Alexandra - 25/03/2014

    Reply
    • Dear Alexandra,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear how trapped you are feeling in your relationship and how difficult things have become with your partner. I’m pleased you have felt able to reach out for support here, you do not need to cope on your own with the situation you are in.

      All the things you describe in your message are abusive, and it sounds like you are now becoming frightened of your partner, unable to assert yourself and trapped with him far away from your family and home. The way your partner is acting is not justified by his head injury. He is acting the way he is because he wants to. It is not your fault and you do not deserve to be treated the way you are being. You say love him and if you left you would feel like you would be abandoning him, but by the sounds of what you write the relationship is not one you feel happy, respected or safe in.

      You say your family are worried about you. Have you discussed the situation in depth with anyone in your life, family or friends? If not you can call the national helpline on 0808 2000 247. They will be able to offer you confidential support and advice. The calls will not show up on your phone bill. You can also look on this website
      www.womensaid.org.uk for support in your area. You could also speak to your GP about the situation you are in and the effect it is having on your wellbeing and confidence.

      We also have a live chat 5-7 weeknights if you would like some more support.
      Take care,
      Becca


      This is Abuse team 26/03/2014

  • alexandra

    25/03/2014

    Hi, I've been in a relationship with a guy for just over two years and we have been engaged for about a year but now I'm struggling to cope and everyone's telling me I'm in a abusive relationship. I wondered if I really am. My fiancÃ

    alexandra - 25/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Alexandra,
      you should maybe try and call a helpline or a abuse line to help you with your'e situation.

      Eve - 26/03/2014

    • Hi Alexandra,
      Thanks for your message. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone no matter what their age, gender, sexuality or race. Abuse is when you experience one or more incidents of controlling or threatening behaviour by a partner or family member. This could be physical, sexual and emotional. It can be someone not allowing you to spend time with your friends and family or telling you what you should wear, etc.
      I’m concerned that you say everyone is telling you you’re in an abusive relationship. Have you asked them why they think your relationship is abusive? I would suggest you look at our In the Know section where you will find a relationship checklist. I would also recommend you looking at www.womensaid.org.uk for more information on abuse.
      Take care
      Sarah

      This is Abuse team 25/03/2014

  • Rebecca

    25/03/2014

    Hi, I'm unsure weather my relationship is abusive.mive been with my boyfriend three years now and we have a four month old together. Right up until two weeks ago we lived togemther and he decided to move out. He is now trying to make me get my own house away from my parent s so that he can be with me and be a 'real family' these three years have been really ,tough. Two years ago I caught him cheating on me until we found out I was pregnant, and he's never made up for it just blames me saying it is my fault. He hates my parents and gets really nasty about the, trying to force me to leave them and much them off for him. We have a joint car but he always uses it and when I want to he won't let me unless I pay for my own petrol which I don't have the money for because I am the only one that provides for our baby. I have to be back at certain times. I'm not allowmed to. Go out might even to dance classes let alone go out with my friends. He promises me things such as getting engaged etc and then change his mind. He is constantly on his phone when I am with. Him talking to ,god knows who and shield s it from my view. He is nice as pie to me one minute and as soon as something pisses him off he has a go at me like it's my fault blaming me and constantly calling me names like stupid and retard. Etc. if we decide to go out together he says it willbe romantic and then always invited his friends and then totally blank me. He manipulates me into spending money on him and yet when I ask him for financial help he normally says no cause he spends all the money on himself. He constantly checks out it her girls I front of me, knowing full well tha t I am not happy with the way I look. He's never hit me but he restrains me and pions me down and puts his hands over my mouth. He doesn't accept my opinion and lowers my standards to suit him and what he wants.

    Rebecca - 25/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Rebecca,

      It sounds as though you are in a really tough situation and I am really pleased that you have decided to talk about it.

      Pinning you down, restraining you and putting his hand over your mouth are all acts of violence. It is absolutely unacceptable for him to do these things to you and I am really pleased that you are concerned.

      It sounds as though even if he hadn’t used these behaviours you would be concerned about the disrespectful way in which he is treating you and that he is not contributing to the finances of your family on top of his controlling behaviours. I wonder what your advice to a friend in this situation might be?

      I think it would be really helpful for you to get some good support from a women’s support service. You can find a local one via the National 24 Hour Domestic Violence helpline on 0808 2000 247 or by visiting the Women’s Aid website www.womensaid.org.uk . Another organisation that can offer useful advice to families Family Lives http://familylives.org.uk .

      I really hope you do decide to get some support and advice.

      Take Care,

      Brian.

      This is Abuse team 25/03/2014

  • Katie

    25/03/2014

    My 19 year old sister is stuck in a relationship she doesn't want to be in. He is verbally mentally and physically abusive. She has tried to get out of it but ihe owes her money and she pays for his phone contract so wants the money owed but of course he won't give it to her. I wanna help her but I don't know how. They always break up but she goes back to him as she can't deal with the abuse she gets from him when they break up

    Katie - 25/03/2014

    Reply

    • Hi Katie,
      Thanks for your message. I’m sorry to hear that your sister is in an abusive relationship. Many victims of domestic abuse will have an ‘on ’and ‘off’ relationship with their abusers which can go on for a long period of time. To others on the outside this can be frustrating as we see the person we care about constantly going back to an unhealthy situation. However leaving an abusive relationship is not easy and only your sister will no when she is ready to leave. All you can do is let her know that you are there for her when she needs you.
      I would suggest your sister contacts www.womensaid.org.uk where she will find more information and support on domestic abuse.
      Take care
      Sarah

      This is Abuse team 25/03/2014

  • paul

    25/03/2014

    These past seven months I have been gotten very close to a girl, we both like eachother, but she is terrified of her ex, he has cheated on her multiple times when in the relationship and didnt treat her with the respect she deserves, he forbids her to talk to any other man, she is scared of what he might do, even though they no longer keep in contact at all, he gets his friends to question her about everything she does, just so he can keep tabs on her, she thinks it's ok to live in fear of him, I try to tell her it's not ok and that she doesn't deserve to be living looking over her shoulder constantly, I just hope you could give me some advice, I know I'm not in an abusive relationship but I just want some help on how to go about this and help her, thanks

    paul - 25/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Paul,

      Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds as though you are in a tough situation and must be really worried for your friend.

      You don’t mention how old either of you are? If the girl you are talking about is under 18, and you are at school together or attend a youth group or similar you might want to talk with a responsible adult about what is happening.

      Whatever your ages it may be that she’s not in the right place to have a relationship right now and so giving her any space she asks for is important. It can be hard to do that when you have strong feelings for someone but it’s a real sign that you care.

      There is some information that you can share with her; If she is over 16 there are some services that could offer her support such as the National 24 Hour Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247 or the Stalking Helpline on 0808 802 0300. If she is being harassed either directly or indirectly she might want to speak with the police about it too. And of course, if you are worried that his behaviour is likely to cause her emotional or physical harm you can also call the Stalking Helpline and get some advice too.

      One last option, if you want to talk it through is to use the live chat function on this site. It is available from 5pm to 7pm on weekdays.

      Take Care Paul, I’m really pleased you are taking your friend’s worries seriously.

      Brian

      This is Abuse team 25/03/2014

  • Anon

    24/03/2014

    A year and a half ago I managed to get out of what was a very abusive 2 year long relationship. From the very beginning I was manipulated, threatened, abused and stolen from and I felt powerless to stop it. I tried to put on a brave face to everyone around me but inside I was broken and I felt I had no way out. It wasn't until I moved away that I managed to escape his hold on me by blocking all forms of contact. For months he continued to message me in anyway he could threatening me, my family, my friends and wanting to shame me to my family by telling them everything he had done to me. I still to this day can't admit to anyone the extent of abuse I suffered and have nightmares every night about it a year and a half on. Friends and family have both said I sleep talk and become very restless and I often wake up in a sweat. I don't know what to do or how to move on from this. As a result I suffer from depression but every time I wake up I hate myself for not getting away from him sooner and now I dread going to sleep. What can I do?

    Anon - 24/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi,

      Thanks for getting in contact. It sounds like it was a really positive thing to leave such an abusive relationship, and you should feel proud that you found the strength inside yourself to leave. It can be so difficult where a partner is so manipulative to leave.

      Have you accessed any support at all? A domestic violence service would assist you in obtaining legal remedies like a Non-Molestation Order so he could not contact you directly or indirectly. Is he still in contact now? If he is it is something you might want to consider.

      It seems like your biggest issue is addressing how you have been left feeling emotionally. It is really important to address this. As you've highlighted it is affecting your sleep, and your emotional wellbeing. In this circumstance I would recommend counselling. There are deep rooted issues left over from this relationship and they need to be addressed. Many women's services (domestic abuse services) offer counselling you can find your nearest by calling the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247, alternatively you can access counselling through your GP, where you are entitled to 6 sessions on the NHS. You can also find a list of local counsellors at www.bacp.co.uk. Many of these offer support on a sliding scale of cost based on your income.

      I hope that with some therapeutic services you can begin to address these issues, and decrease nightmares and flashbacks.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 25/03/2014

  • Emily

    24/03/2014

    When I was 13 I was with someone who was 18 he told me he loved me (as we had been together 5 month) and took me to his house in Sheffield I was scared to go but things were so bad at home I went with him. He waited until his parent and sister went out and then tried to do things to me, I tried to push him away but he wouldn't get off me,I was really scared and was crying but he wouldn't go. He pinned me down and raped me and I still have flashbacks about it as it's not the first time it has happened as it happened a year before all of this with a different bot when I was 12 and he was 19 and I hate being scared when I get into a relationship but I can't get rid of all the flashbacks

    Emily - 24/03/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Emily,

      Thanks for getting in contact. I'm really sorry that you have had these experiences. It is understandable that you are having flashbacks.

      Traumatic experiences like this need to be addressed, and it can often be really difficult to make that first step and access some support. However, there are a lot of services out there that offer counselling and therapies for women who have experienced rape or sexual assault. From what you have said I think it would be really beneficial for you to access some support.

      You can find your nearest support service through Rape Crisis on 0808 802 9999.

      What happened in both cases is illegal, and you can still report this to the Police. That can sound really scary, but it is never acceptable for anybody to behave in this way.

      You are not alone in this. There are services that can help you and put you at ease. They won't make you do anything you don't want to do.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 25/03/2014

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