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  • Lorita okpoda eppiah

    05/01/2014

    Please I need help my boyfriend abuses me everyday

    Lorita okpoda eppiah - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Lorita please get out of there, go to the police, get help asap, before he does something I would hate to say what. You will be protected and difficult as it may be to do such please you have to try. Good luck, be strong, you can do it!!

      k - 07/01/2014

    • Hi Lorita

      Thanks for your message. Lorita can you maybe post us back and explain a little bit more about what your boyfriend is doing she we can help you. If you don't feel able to do that try and call the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247 as they will be able to talk to you about what you can do and also tell you about local services in your area that may be able to help you.

      The Women's Aid website on www.womensaid.org.uk also has lots of useful informtaion on it which you may want to look at. I hope that helps as a start

      Take care
      Linda

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • Sarah

    05/01/2014

    If your partner threatens to leave all the time and constantly does it shouting that he doesn't love you. Is that emotional abuse.
    My partner has done this constantly throughout are relationship threatening to take our child.
    Every time it is over silly arguments.
    He says he is leaving it's my fault and I don't love him anymore. This is not true as I have never said this. Every time he leaves I get really depressed and have been Counselling I but always take him back when he comes crawling back months later promising to never do it again. He has also left me for someone else and said he did it because he felt I didn't love him.
    He shouts at me , says it's my fault the relationship is over.
    I always persist at working at things and let him know I do love him until he walked out on me recently saying he doesn't love me again. This time I have been stronger and carried on with my life. He is now begging to come back .

    Sarah - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Sarah
      It sounds like things have been really difficult in your relationship and I am not surprised that you are depressed.

      You say that you have been to counselling before, is this something that you can access again? Your GP should be able to refer you. You can also access local specialist support services for people who have experienced abuse in relationships, this could be one to one or groups and I think that could really help you.

      To find out more contact the helpline on 0808 2000 247 - they can also help you with other options in terms of the relationship.

      It may also be useful to talk to Rights of Women who offer free legal advice and could advise about separation if that is what you want - http://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/adviceline.php
      020 7251 6577 - Mondays 7pm-9pm, Tuesdays 7pm-9pm, Wednesday 7pm-9pm, Thursday 7pm-9pm and Fridays 12noon-2pm

      It is really good that you are feeling stronger, hopefully with some support you can make some plans for the future and continue to feel strong and hopeful for the future,
      take care
      Jo

      This is Abuse team 09/01/2014

  • Tay

    05/01/2014

    My boyfriend hits be when we argue I know this is wrong and it seems to be getting worse he's not mentally abusive and he doesn't do it at random just when we are arguing and he's angry and frustated I believe he got anger issues and he needs help I've talked to him about this and he's sincere when he says hr doesn't wanna be 'that' guy but he doesn't know what to do I've told him to count to ten and allsorts can I help him?

    Tay - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hello Tay

      Thanks for your message. It is obvious that you care for your partner and wish to see aspects of the relationship improve. However, it is not your responsibility to manage your partners behaviour. Even if the physical abuse is 'only when he is angry' it is still unacceptable.

      if your partner is committed to trying to stop being abusive towards you he could maybe contact Respect a national organisation that offers advice and support to perpetrators of abuse. Their website is www.respect.uk.net and they also have a helpline on 0808 8024040 that would be happy to chat to him. Ultimately, he needs to be the one to take the step to access some help to change his behaviour and doing this would get him some expert help as well as demonstrating to you his commitment to improve this aspect of the relationship.

      It can be very isolating and confusing when in an abusive relationship and whether you decide to remain in the relationship or not it is important that you have some support yourself. Have you got family or friends you feel able to talk to and confide in? The National Helpline on 0808 2000247 is open 24 hours and will always offer you advice and support if you need it .I hope that you can both get the help you need and that things improve

      Take care

      Linda

      This is Abuse team 08/01/2014

  • Sam

    05/01/2014

    Hi ..this is difficult to write. I'm embarassed to say that my own mother has been emotionally abusive towards myself and my brother for a long time. I'm 34 now and it has all come to a head last night...I seriously feel like I can't continue our relationship, treading on egg shells any more. This sounds ridiculous but she text today asking if I could get her a lottery ticket (I always do favours for her all the time) and I couldn't as I have a new baby, was clearing the christmas tree decorations down and my partner was at work. Anyway she went on to send a torrent of abusive messages to both me and my partner all afternoon....(I usually try to just pacify her and I work with mental health services myself so I understand how to talk to someone in distress/rage) anyway she really kicked off this time, she became more and more violent and threatened to smash my partners van windows...I didn't believe that she would actually go through with her threats but she did. We heard a bang outside and the neighbour informed us our van was smashed up. She has since been arrested and is now making threats to take my baby (7 months) off me ..she has told the police all sorts off stories..that we are unfit parents and that my partner is on heroin.....absolutely not true whatsoever!!! I can't believe she has gone this far ...even in custody being nice to the solicitor but giving the police a hard time, which the officer involved told me (that surely involves some messed up intent). I have always previously been there for her but I'm so angry now...she is trying to ruin my life. I am trying my best to deal with how I am going to get to terms with cutting her out completely as I can't take this anymore ...I don;t know what to do next?? This is a genuine post. Please help!!

    Sam - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Sam,

      Thanks for getting in contact with us. It sounds like a really difficult time for you and your partner, and I'm really glad you're reaching out to access support.

      I would like to highlight that domestic abuse can happen in any close relationship, it does not have to be a sexual relationship. The relationship with your mother would fall in to this category.

      There are options available for you, such as Non-Molestation Orders if you do not wish for her to contact you. Information on this can be found here; http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100330002

      I think it would be really helpful to get in contact with your local domestic abuse service who will be able to offer you practical and emotional support around your current situation. They will be able to talk you through all your options at the moment. You will be able to find contact details for your local service on your local council's website, google or by contacting the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 09/01/2014

  • Shelby

    05/01/2014

    As a child, my father would usually beat up my mother mostly every night until one night he got sent to jail for that. I still miss him,. I just need someone to talk to as my daddy was my hero at one point and I told him everything. Now im not even aloud to see him as I am only 13 years old also my mother doesnt like me sending him letters constantly as she wants nothing to do with him also incase he upsets me or something. I totally understand that but I just need someone to help me out and help me get through it as recently ive been cutting/slitting my wrists cause I miss him that much.. He doesnt ever reply to my letters, I wonder if he's still there..

    Shelby - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Dear Shelby,

      Thank you for posting. I am really sorry that things are so tough for you right now. It must be very confusing and upsetting missing your father and knowing that he has been abusive.

      It sounds as though some specialist support would be helpful for you. Is there a trusted adult you can talk to? Perhaps a school counsellor? A good place to start would be contacting a counsellor at Childline on 0800 1111.

      You mention that you have sometimes cut yourself and there is some useful information about self harm here http://www.childline.org.uk/Explore/Self-harm/Pages/about-self-harm.aspx

      Talking about what is happening for you could really help.

      Take Care Shelby,

      Brian

      This is Abuse team 09/01/2014

  • rachel

    05/01/2014

    2 years ago I was in an abusive relationship where my boyfriend wouldn't let me have any male friends, checked my messages constantly and eventually prevented me from going places even with friends because he thought I was going to get with other people. He used to flirt with people infront of me to make me feel worthless and constantly put me down by saying things he knew I was insecure about. When I realised I had slowly lost the majority of my friends and was starting to loose my family because of what he was doing I ended the relationship even after he physically threatened my friends who he believed were the cause of the break up. After all this time I still can't be in a healthy relationship because of how badly I've been hurt from this relationship. I've met some great guys who have been so sweet and trustworthy but I can't bring myself to fully put my trust in them because I'm so fearful of them turning out like my last relationship. I don't know what I can do to stop thinking like this...

    rachel - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Rachel

      Thanks for your message. I am really pleased that you are no longer in that abusive relationship.
      However, it can take a long time to move on and learn to trust people again, so what you are feeling is totally normal.
      Have you been able to get back in touch with your friends and family and talk to them about what has happened? Sometimes a great first step is to start talking about it. But I think it is also useful to get some other support from specialist organisations and there are lots out there.
      I am not sure where you live, but if you google the name of your area and 'domestic abuse support services' it should come up with some info. There should be a local women's aid or refuge who often run support groups for people to go and meet others who have been in similar relationships.
      Sometimes they are called 'freedom programme' or 'community groups' or 'recovery from abuse' etc

      You can also ring the national helpline on 0808 2000 247 as they should have the details you need.
      If you want us to find one for you then you could come to our live chat service and we can look it up for you (every day between 5-7pm mon-fri)

      Not all relationships are abusive, in fact it is the minority of men who are abusive, so you will meet other guys who will treat you with love and respect, but it is important for you to recover from the past relationship so you can move on,

      I hope this helps,
      take care
      Jo

      This is Abuse team - 07/01/2014

  • Aaron

    05/01/2014

    When you think of abuse, it's easy to get an image of a guy hurting his girlfriend, but I have learnt first hand that abuse happens, even without realising you are being abused. My girlfriend used to verbally abuse me all the time, explosive anger that would come from nowhere, putting me down all the time. I always thought nothing of it until one day my best friend heard the way she spoke to me on the phone and he started to get worried for me. He began talking to me about her and woke me up out of this nightmare. He made me realise what she was doing was wrong. After talking to her about it she promised she would change, and I believed her time and time again. One day she had put me down so much I grabbed a knife and I was going to cut myself. I stopped, looked in the mirror and thought, "what the f*** am I doing??" I stopped. I am now very happy to say I am single and much better off, I have no idea what life would still be like if it wasn't for my best friend and it's him I have to thank. So if you suspect a friend is being abused, don't sit back and let it happen, wake them up to it, it's not normal and really isn't okay. I'm only 19 and have my whole life ahead of me, I have so much more fun now, I'm allowed to see my friends and family, I don't have to put up with bein abised anymore. Stand up and be a true friend. Don't let abuse happen.

    Aaron - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hello Aaron

      Thanks for contacting us and being able to share a bit about what happened to you. Its so good to know you had such a supportive friend who could help you whilst your were is this very abusive relationship. Support from friends and family can be crucially important and I am sure other people will consider this after reading your message.

      I am glad life has improved now

      Take care
      Linda

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • Maisie Durrant

    05/01/2014

    I'd been dating somebody for a while and he was incredibly caring, but he started to act weird. He constantly banned me from seeing friends and tried numerous times to emotionally blackmail me. I didn't realise what he was doing was wrong until I saw the advert. He was emotionally abusive and If I hadn't realised as soon as I did,because of this campaign,then emotional abuse would have turned physical as I found out only last week that he abused and punched his ex girlfriend,he also threatened her with a knife. I'm so thankful for this campaign otherwise I would still be in the relationship and could of been at risk of physical abuse,thankyou so so much

    Maisie Durrant - 05/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hello Maisie

      Thanks for contacting us and its a real relief to hear that you are no longer in this relationship. It sounds as though it might have proved to be a very dangerous relationship and i am glad you are safe now. Its also helpful to hear that you find the adverts useful.

      I hope life improves from now on

      Take care
      Linda

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • carrie

    04/01/2014

    i left my abusive relationship some months ago now. we were together nearly 6 years. it started off as control and isolation hiding my phone,car keys debit card so i couldn't socialise. Then after our first child it was name calling making me feel awful about my body changes. piece by piece the real me faded away and i became unrecognisable to myself and others never socialised unless he was with me. things took a turn for the worst when we got married he became violent and sexually violent also. one day i managed to find some strength from somewhere and ended the relationship i changed the locks and got all his stuff out my house. Even though it was a struggle at first not taking him back now i have my confidence coming back with thanks to my family and its the best thing i ever did ending the relationship. i saw this ad on the tv and i was so happy that its being made aware to everyone thank you

    carrie - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Carrie,

      I'm really sorry to hear about the abuse that you experienced from your husband, it is never acceptable to behave in that manner and a lot of his actions are against the law.

      I'm really glad to hear that with the support of your friends and family but I always think it is helpful to get some support for professionals too. They can still offer support to women who have left abusive relationships so it might be worth getting in contact with your local domestic abuse service. You can find them on google, or your local council's website. Alternatively you can call the national helpline on 0808 2000 247 and they will be able to give you details of your local support service.

      Take care,

      Luke

      This is Abuse team - 07/01/2014

  • Amy

    04/01/2014

    Hi I'm in a lesbian relationship I'm engaged to my partner and have been for a year and 4 months and I'm feeling scared and dunno what to do my partner is controlling she bosses me about a a lot I feel like a slave or waitress to her get me this do this do that etc and whenever I get paid from my job my money don't last a day she forces me to draw it all out once. I'm not allowed to buy anything for myself .she makes me withdraw it all she has all the control I can't cook my mum never taught me how to and she moans at me for not being be to cook when she knows I can't when she's angry or stressed at someone she takes everything out on me I ask her what's her problem she always says I'm her problem it's always my fault m

    I have asthma she walks of in front I tell her to slow down wait for me she leaves me behind she shouts at me telling me to keep up n swears at me I tell her I can't keep up with u I have trouble breathing sometimes I'm not strong enough to stand up to her I tried it a little she didn't like it she said u dare talk to me like that I will fucking... knock u out what do I do??

    Amy - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Dear Amy,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear just how confused you are feeling at the moment and I am pleased you have felt strong enough to post here, the way your partner is treating you is not ok and you don’t have to cope on your own.

      The things you describe in your message are all types of abuse, emotional, financial, using your illness as a way to bully you and threatening you if you stand up to her. Your girlfriend is blaming you for the way she is acting but what is happening is not your fault. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect and that isn’t the way your girlfriend is treating you.

      It sounds like your girlfriend is being quite scary. Have you been able to talk about what is happening with anyone in your life, such as family or friends? The more people you have supporting you the easier it will be for you to know what you want to do next. If you don’t feel able to talk to anyone in your life you can call Broken Rainbow on 0300 999 5428, they are a LBGT domestic violence helpline open Mon – Thursday 10am until 8pm and on Wednesday 10am until 5pm. You can speak to them in confidence about what is happening and you can discuss your options with them.

      Take care,

      Becca

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • Kitty

    04/01/2014

    I was in a mentally abusive relationship for many years and well over ten years ago now. I thought that as the years passed by if I ever found myself in a similar relationship/ situation I would know immediately and get out. I very recently found a man whom I thought I loved, I thought that he was my soul mate, but on reflection it was also a hugely destructive and abusive relationship, albeit to a much lesser extent than the first time. I did not actually realise that I was in a bad situation until the relationship finished- now that I am out I can see it for what it was and as clear as day. Not knowing I was going down the same road has really surprised and shocked me; the fact that I have put myself through it twice saddens me. So, I just wanted to say that it is not always apparent.

    Kitty - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Dear Kitty,

      Thank you for your message and sharing your story with people reading the site. The signs of an abusive relationship can be hard to see, I’m pleased to hear that you are in a better situation now.
      Have you had any support for what you have been through? If not you can look on this website for support in your local area.

      www.womensaid.org.uk

      Take care,
      Becca

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • sierra

    04/01/2014

    abuse is horrible, it happened to me once a month ago , because of this it stopped what happened, so thankyou

    sierra - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hello Sierra

      I am glad the campaign helped and that you managed to end the relationship.

      Take care

      Linda

      This is Abuse team 04/01/2014

  • LR

    04/01/2014

    I was in an abusive relationship for 11 years .. i left 2 years ago and as the abuse was mainly mental i kinda just hoped it would get better .. I am in a new relationship and have already had to have counselling as i had major trust issues and was having panic attacks. Although none of this was my new partners fault the doctor referred me to well-being and they suggested relationship counselling.. He attended and supported me and things got a little better .. But 2 years on and still going through a divorce my ex husband is still managing to terrify me and even made comments to our daughter who is nearly 6. A year ago she came home from a visit with him saying he was going to kill me and became more and more upset every time she saw him .. Although i have always hidden everything as much as possible from her she remembers some of the outbursts as she has commented to me and says she doesn't want to see him saying he is horrible to her .. I have stopped contact and this is being dealt with via solicitors. My ex continues to effect us even without contact slating me to others saying i am fabricating the whole thing. Although police were involved throughout out relationship as most of the abuse was emotional and only the houses suffered breakage i had no physical bruises to show. .. The problem i have now is i guess i have finally admitted how much damage he has done .. i have no confidence and no self esteem .. i hate and blame myself most days.. and my daughter has problems because my anxieties have effected her.. she finds it more difficult than others to deal with if a friend says something nasty and takes every little thing to heart... where can i get help for me and my daughter to rebuild our lives .. MY new man and her role model who she calls dad is amazing but I can seem to beat this fear !

    LR - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Dear Lp,

      Thank you for your message. It takes a lot of courage to end an abusive relationship and I can hear just what strength you have shown rebuilding your life and looking after your daughter.

      You have been through a lot and the after effects of that are hard to deal with alone. You say you have had counselling before, are you at the moment? If not I would encourage you to have a look at this website for specialist support in your local area.

      www.womensaid.org.

      Take care,

      Becca

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • Sophie

    04/01/2014

    Hi everyone, i was in an abusive relationship for 2 years, sexually and mentally however i made it out, i spoke out about it to my mum and she helped me deal with it and get him out of my life, no one had any idea this was going on which is why it is so important to speak to someone you trust! i am 18 and since i ended it with him i have had the best year of my life. since then he has been giving me death threats, and mentally hurting me again, i called the harassment bureau but nothing happened. i finally gave up and told him straight and since then nothing has happened! we all can stick together and do what is right for ourselves, i know you are scared but trust me, its worth it. However, i need some help, this has mentally scarred me and i cant have any relationship since as i always have flashbacks and it brings back all the feelings i had, i dont know what to do. im scared whenever i am put in those same situations and i just want it out of my head, its been 8 months but i am still struggling..

    Sophie - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Hi Sophie,

      Thank you for your message. It took a lot of strength for you to share what was happening to you with your mum and I am pleased you got the support you needed from the people around you. Thanks also for sharing your story with people reading the site.

      You did a really strong thing and I can hear just how much progress you have made over the last year. If you are still experiencing flashbacks and strong emotions from what you went through that’s totally understandable. You were in a frightening situation and suffered abuse and this is bound to have an affect if you have been coping without specialist support. I would encourage you to call Rape Crisis, they are an organisation who specialise in working with women and girls who have suffered sexual violence. They can talk with you in a confidential and non-judgemental setting. You can reach them on 0808 802 (12 –2.30 & 7 – 9.30 everyday). You can also call the 24 hour domestic violence helpline on 0808 2000 247 to discuss the domestic abuse you went through.

      You may also want to look on this website for support in your local area.

      www.womensaid.org.uk

      Take care,

      Becca

      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

  • Annoymous

    04/01/2014

    I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend for 19 months now. He lives like 40 minutes away from me so we only see each other on weekends. The first couple of months was great, he was so cute and romantic and he really made me fall for him. But the last year has been hell, I'm not allowed to do anything anymore. He checks my phone, I'm not allowed to speak to any lads at all, I can't stay behind at school for extra help, I'm not allowed to revise, I'm not allowed to do anything without him or he threatens to leave me. I love him, and he says he loves me but I don't know what to do anymore. He says he's going to propose to me this year and he wants me forever, and I want that too but I feel trapped. I've been raped in the past and suffer with self harm but he's the only person that knows and whenever we argue he always says he's going to tell everybody. I'm so confused and scared but I honestly do love him, what do I do?

    Annoymous - 04/01/2014

    Reply
    • Dear Anonymous,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear just how confused and trapped you are feeling at the moment and I am pleased you have felt strong enough to post here.

      All the things you describe your boyfriend doing in your message are abusive and controlling, the way he is treating you is not ok. You say that you at first he was really caring and romantic but now he has changed, which is probably why you feel so confused. Many abusive people have a ‘charming’ side that they show at the beginning of a relationship as it makes it harder for the person that they are with to leave them.

      You say in the past that you have been raped and you self harm to cope with the effects of that. That’s really serious and something you should be getting some support for, but instead he is using it as a way of controlling you and frightening you. What happened to you was not your fault and you deserve to be treated with care and respect, not bullied because of it.

      I understand that you care for your boyfriend but you also feel trapped, because you know that the way he is treating you isn’t right. Have you spoken to anyone in your life about what is happening? Friends or family? If you don’t feel you can discuss it with anyone you know you can call the 24 hour domestic abuse helpline on 0808 2000 247. They will be able to listen to you and discuss how you are feeling. The more people you have supporting you the easier it will be for you to see the situation clearly.

      It sounds like you have not had any support for the rape you suffered and this means you are carrying it around with you and dealing with it alone. That’s a really hard thing to do and it sounds like it’s taking its toll on you. Rape Crisis is an organisation who specialise in working with women and girls who have suffered sexual violence. They can talk with you in a confidential and non-judgemental setting. You can reach them on 0808 802 (12 –2.30 & 7 – 9.30 everyday). If you have someone supporting you it will be easier for you to make the next move and get yourself some specialist help for what you have been through.

      We also have live chat from 5-7 weeknights if you would like some more support.

      Take care

      Becca







      This is Abuse team 07/01/2014

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It's ok to post links to other websites as long as they're relevant to the "This Is Abuse" debate and don't break the house rules in any way.

Don't break copyright rules. This means that you shouldn't post text you didn't write.

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