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  • James


    I'm a 40 year old man and I've come to the conclusion that I am in an abusive relationship.

    I've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years and for the most part I've felt loved and respected by her (she is 35), but over the past 12 months I have been subjected to continual verbal and emotional abuse.

    My girlfriend has a very controlling nature to her personality which determines her every action and decision making process around us as a couple. When things are good we are a team, but when the slightest thing upsets her she takes it out on me and I feel exasperated and depressed by having to calm her down time and time again. This is practically weekly.

    She openly admits to reading my phone (because she feels justified to do so), but recently she has started to come between me and my friends and more alarmingly, my family.
    She has also been through all my drawers at home trying to find evidence of past relationships, and taken it upon herself to re-arrange my flat when I'm not there.

    I'm subjected to constant belittling, being spoken to like a child and chastised for not being in contact with her every hour of the day. I'm accused of not loving her enough if I don't contact her first thing in the morning for example. We don't live together (as she is a Christian), but I fear she suffers from some kind of acute separation anxiety and it actually makes me scared of her sometimes.

    When she drinks alcohol I'm often subjected to her vile temper and she lashes out at me - only in private though. She is non-violent at the moment, but I am deeply worried she may resort to more physical manifestations of her anger towards me.

    Right now it feels like I have to tolerate two versions of the same woman. One is sweet, loving, caring and in love with me. She wants to get married, settle down and have a family. However, her alter-ego is a nasty, spiteful and wholly controlling woman who has been chipping away at my self esteem and confidence for months.

    I don't know which way to turn next. I love her very much but I don't want to become a victim of her behaviour for the next 30 years.

    We have just started going for couple counselling, and already I'm afraid to bring all this out in the open in front of a neutral person. That's not right is it?

    Can anyone help me?

    James - 05/02/2014

    • Hi James,
      Thanks for your message, it is really good you are reaching out for some support. It sounds like you have been going through a really difficult time. All of the things you describe are forms of emotional abuse and controlling behaviour. You must feel really overwhelmed and upset.

      The good news is there is support. You mentioned couples counselling. This is not something we would ever advise to do where there is abuse in the relationship as it is usually not safe to talk about it in front of the abusive person. It could make things more difficult when you leave the session.

      There is a brilliant oganisation who will really be able to help you:
      Monday - Friday 9am-5pm on freephone 0808 801 0327
      They will be able to listen and to give you advice and support.
      You do not have to deal with this alone. We also have a live chat every mon-fri from 5-7pm if you want to talk more.

      I hope this helps,
      take care

      This is Abuse team - 06/02/2014

  • moe


    reading some of these messages im full of "run dont stay youd be mad to put up with that" then i turn my camera around and look at my own life its hard to contact anyone reguarding this because ive only seen it as his anger problem but now im starting to see its gone on for longer than i reolised........i didnt sign up for this and i cant get it through to him what he is doing i want HIM to get help even with me beside him if someone could explain what he is doing MAYBE he would see but atm when i tell him no matter how much glitter i stick to my comments he makes it out like im attacking him. all i see is my house the shop and my sons school. for 5 years. ive no friends he knows as weve been over it many times that we need to go out as im going crazy but off he goes with his mates and not a second though to me. im tired and hide in my room away from any chance of a confrontation. i think its him that needs help or is this abuse?? he told me for years i was ott and blew everything out of i?

    moe - 05/02/2014

    • Hi Moe
      Thank you for your message. It sounds like things are really difficult and your partner is being very abusive. It is great that you are reaching out for some support though. It also sounds like he has managed to isolate you from people who could help you. Do you have any family that you can talk to about this?
      Also, schools are good place to go to get support. You may be able to talk to someone at your son's school, or at least use the phone there to call the helpline. I think calling the national domestic violence helpline will be a good idea - they are open 24 hours a day on 0800 2000 247 and will be able to give you advice, If you did want to move to a refuge with your son, they can give you details of that.

      I know you are worried about finances and the mortgage, but you can also get support with that. The best people to talk to are Rights of Women -
      Call 020 7251 6577 (telephone) on Mondays 7pm-9pm, Tuesdays 7pm-9pm, Wednesday 7pm-9pm, Thursday 7pm-9pm and Fridays 12noon-2pm

      They can give you free legal advice and specialise in these issues.
      This website also has lots of info about finances and abuse:

      I hope all this info helps, you do not have to go through this alone, there is alot of support here for you and your son,

      take care

      This is Abuse team - 06/02/2014

  • Michelle


    I am 31 and meet my now ex fieance when i was 19 he was 37, we were together for 10-11 years. He was violent to me 3-4 times in our relationship starting with a kick in butt cheek to ending in punching, kicking, kicking me in the head and trying to poke my eyes out. I wasn't innocent in all this, I was violent to him to that nite to by pushing him to the floor n punching him on the face twice. I have pushed him before but never struck him till the nite he attacked me or re acted to my violence. It was a build up of past events eg flinging knifes at me,smacking me with chair and other things. I stayed with him for 2 weeks after what I call the FATAL NITE that I ended the relationship. I didn't want anyone to see me and i didn't want him to get in trouble with the law. About a year later after THAT NITE he got arrested in another matter. What I'm writtting about is that I still love him. I vist him in prison as a friend and I just can't let go and I don't understand why? I am waiting for counseling. I know what I need to do but I just can't walk away the now. Confused n lost anyone got any advice plz. Thanks to any1 reading this, if my problem is like yours plz read the reply i get and we can hopefully get a better understanding. x.

    Michelle - 05/02/2014

    • Hi Michelle

      Thanks for your message, it is really good that you are reaching out for help. It sounds like you experienced severe physical abuse in your relationship. I know you mentioned that you were also abusive and whilst there is never an excuse for abuse it sounds like you were acting in fear.
      You were with him for a very long time, and it is understandable that you will have feelings for him still. However, I also hear that you recognise what he did was abusive and wrong. I think that counselling will really help you so I am glad you are going to have some. Talking things through can really help.

      I am not sure how long he has left of his sentence but I would be very concerned about you returning to the relationship. Without support to take responsibility for his abusive behaviour and a real desire to change, it is unlikely that he will no longer be abusive.

      As I said, it is normal to still have feelings for someone and love is a very powerful emotion, but you have to prioritise your safety, and your happiness. Not all men will treat you like this, in fact it is the minority of men who are abusive. You deserve a relationships where you are loved and respected.

      This is a lovely organisation who provide counselling for women who have experienced abuse:

      You could also contact your local women's aid as they will have an outreach team who can talk to you and help you make sense of how you are feeling. We also have a live chat every mon-fri from 5-7pm.

      You do not have to deal with this alone, and it is really important to keep safe.
      I hope this helps.
      take care

      This is Abuse team - 06/02/2014

  • Jade


    I've been in a relationship for almost two years, in this time a lot has happened. I've worked since we have been together however he's hasn't which has been our main issue. He's 17 I'm 19 and he lives with my family and I who support him. However he can act so different when it's just him and myself. He moans a lot at me for going out or doing anything with him. I rarely see my friends because it's easier to stay in and not cause a row. People can see I've changed because of him but I feel I can't let him go. Some days I love to be around him others I can't stand him. I'm finding it hard to know what's normal and not.

    Jade - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Jade
      Thanks for your message. Sometimes it can be really hard to know what is abusive in a relationship. It must be much harder living with him as well. It is not ok for him to stop you going out and seeing your friends.
      Have a look at the relationship checklist on this page.

      It will help you to think about whether the relationship is healthy or not. You say he lives with you and your family? Are you family aware of what he can be like? It is important to tell people as it will help you cope and to keep you safe.

      If you are worried, have a look at the help pages on here or come to our live chats every mon-fri from 5-7pm.

      take care

      This is Abuse team - 06/02/2014

  • Amber


    i've been in a relationship i nkow its ended but people bully me even though that its endes i dont know whatt to do i am quite young and dont understand if you know how to sort out these bullies can you tell me.

    Amber - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Amber

      I am sorry to hear that you are being bullied. Is this bullying linked to your relationship?

      Bullying is really hard and no-one should have to go through it, but there is lots of help for you and I am really glad you have come here for support.

      The most important thing when you are being bullied is to tell people. This is the only way it will stop. I know it can be scary but people will be able to help you. Is there someone at school who you feel you can talk to? Perhaps a teacher, or nurse? Or maybe there is someone at home? The school will have a policy on bullying and should be able to help you.

      If you want to talk to a professional you could call childline on 0800 1111 and they can listen and give you some advice.

      You do not have to deal with this on your own. We also have a live chat here every day mon-fri from 5-7pm.

      I hope this helps
      take care

      This is Abuse team - 06/02/2014

  • Zoe


    i left my ex partner after he was constantly shouting, through a laptop at me and my son (he was 3 weeks old at the time) and using my previous abuse against me, we had a child together and now hes using our son as a weapon saying that i should be in a mental insituaction, hes going to get socail services involded as i use to self harm, just constantly putting me down, using the previous experances against me. he says hes not abused me or caused me any harm yet he caused me to have a mental breakdown and start self harming again as i felt trapped by him, is this abuse or am i being silly and pathetic as he says?

    Zoe - 04/02/2014

    • Dear Zoe,

      Thank you for your message. You’ve have experiences serious abuse in your relationship and you are experiencing abuse now. Throwing a laptop and you and a new born is very dangerous. You are not silly and pathetic. You have been realty strong to leave the relationship and keep yourself and your son safe. You do not have to cope on your own with all this, there is support out there.

      What happened to you, and is still happening to you is abuse and is against the law. Your ex is choosing to act in the way that he is. The way he behaves is not your fault, you are not to blame for the abuse you have suffered. I can hear that you are under a lot of pressure and you say you have been self-harming, is this something you feel you could discuss with a GP? Domestic abuse can put a huge strain on a person and your GP might be a person you could talk about this with and the effect it’s having on you.

      Have you discussed what is happening with anyone, family, friends or anyone else in your life? If you don’t feel you can talk about it with anyone you know you can call the 24 hour domestic violence helpline - you can reach them on 0800 2000 247. You can discuss with them your feelings and get advice that can help you decide what to do next. You can also look on this website for support in your area.
      Your partner is using your son as a further means to abuse you. There are organisations that can give you advice about this. I have put the links below.

      We have a live chat from 5-7 on the site and you can speak to someone if you feel you like to discuss this more.

      Take care,

      This is Abuse team 06/02/2014

  • Meliax


    This happened over a year ago now, but i am only now realising how i should have never been put in this situation. I had had 'phone sex' with a guy once and i then knew i was in the wrong and explained that i didn't think it was a good idea again, he then threatened to tell everyone if i didn't do it again. He kept this up for over a month untill i realised that i couldn't get out of it and decided to just let him spread it. Even though i now know i shouldn't do sexual things with someone who i do not completely trust, he was in the wrong and these things shouldn't ever happen.

    Meliax - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Meliax,

      Thank you for your message and sharing your story with people reading the site. You went through something horrible and you had to deal with that alone. It sounds like you have been really strong to get out of the situation and you know that you did not do anything wrong and it was the responsibility of the person who was blackmailing you in to doing things you did not want to. That’s great and I the comment you have left will help other people reading the site.

      Have you had any support for what you went through? If you have not had anyone to talk to I would encourage you to call Rape Crisis. They are confidential helpline and who work with women and girls who have experienced sexual violence. They will be able to talk with you about your experience and how this may be affecting you. You can reach them on 0808 802 9999 (12-2.30pm, 7-9:30pm).
      Take care,

      This is Abuse team 06/02/2014

  • Nicola


    Ive been in a relationship for just over a year, things were great to start with but just four months in id found out he had been having cyber fun with other women (this hurt) as i thought i was enough for him. As the months have gone Ive been badly beaten one after he drank too much but he claims he doesnt remember therefore in his eyes it didnt happen ':( . Im being checked up on all the time, i cant have male friends anymore because hee flares up at me and them, es constantly sending my nasty texts detailing why im such an awful person and girlfriend and why im so useless, I lost his child a month ago (falling pregnant wasn't planned) and he blames me, so much so i tried to end it all, i just wasnt coping. I aleady have three children and I just fell like my world was falling apart. Dont get me wrong i love this guy heaps but he's making me cry everyday and doesn't care one ounce. Ie lost who I am, I have no confidence no and fear calls and texts im ot sure what to do, i feel such a fool, and all of our ooutside friends just dont see whats happeing, he blames me, my attitude and my clothing or how i talk to people as reasons for his condensing tone, im stuck, feel cowardly but there is literally noone i can talk to about it.

    Nicola - 04/02/2014

    • HI Nicola,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear just how much you are going through at the moment and how isolated you are in your situation. It takes a lot of strength to share what is happening and ask for support. You have done that here, you don’t have to cope with this alone.

      You mention a lot of things in your message that are really concerning Nicola. Your partner is being extremely abusive, both emotionally and physically and trying to make you feel like it is your fault. What is happening is not your fault, your partner is choosing to act in the way that he does. There is nothing you could do to deserve be treated the way you are.

      You have gone through the trauma of losing a pregnancy and then being blamed for this. You say you have attempted to end your life within the last month. Have you spoken to anyone about this – you are obviously suffering a great deal if you have made this attempt and you deserve some support. This might be something to discuss with your GP. It sounds like you are not very safe in your relationship and I’m wondering how this is impacting on your health and your children? You cannot cope with all of this alone, you are not a coward, you are having to be very strong in a terrible situation.

      Have you discussed what is happening with anyone, family, friends or anyone else in your life? If you don’t feel you can talk about it with anyone you know you can call the 24 hour domestic violence helpline - you can reach them on 0800 2000 247. You can discuss with them your feelings and get advice that can help you decide what to do next. You can also look on this website for support in your area. If you feel you are in danger at any point you can call 999, as what is happening to you is a crime.

      You say you love your partner a great deal, but from what you write here it does not sound like he cares about you in the same way. He has beaten you, destroyed your confidence and made you feel unable to have friends as well as blaming you for the loss of a pregnancy. You deserve to be treated with love and respect in a relationship, and from what you write it sounds like you are not receiving this. There is support out there for you and places you can discuss this in confidence with people who understand what you are going through. You deserve that support.

      We have a live chat from 5-7 on the site and you can speak to someone if you feel you like to discuss this more.
      Take care,

      This is Abuse team 06/02/2014

  • Rhi


    I was in a relationship from the age of 15 until 17 with the same person,although there wasnt any physical abuse of any kind i always felt that i was being controlled emotionally. He would say some horrible things then make me believe it was true, which eventually built up to me having very low self esteem and confidence. Im 18 now and i still suffer from these,they dont only effect my personal relationship they effect my whole life as i dont have the confidence or belief in my self to do simple things anymore,it makes my worklife very hard and trusting people is a challenge as i fear the same will happen again,I think there needs to be more support for young teens about emotional abuse,talking from my own experience theres more general knowledge about physical abuse than emotional,there seemed to not really be any focus on this side of things and I hope that through all this research and time put in will produce better support for all kinds of abuse.

    Rhi - 04/02/2014

    • Hello Rhi

      Thank you for your message.I can hear how much of a struggle this all still is for you and yes you are right the emotional effects of abuse can run deep and be long lasting. I am wondering what help if any you have been able to find to help you deal with this.Have you managed to talk to anyone about what went on? This can be terribly hard to do when your confidence is low but its an important step towards a recovery as it helps break down the isolation that abuse creates.

      If you were able to call the national helpline on 0808 2000 247 they would be able to tell you about local services in your area that could help.Some of these might be group programmes or some could be individual sessions but both would give you a chance to think through your experience and try and move forward. Your GP would also be another option to consider as they can also refer to some specialised services.

      We also run Live chat sessions Mon - Fri 5-7 if it would help to chat to one of us. I hope that helps as a staring point

      Take care

      This is Abuse team 05/02/2014

  • anonymous


    I am a lesbian and have been with my partner for 3 years. We are getting married in the Summer. My question is slightly different.

    My partner has never physically or sexually abused me in any way shape or form. However I have noticed some warning signs and I don't know at what point it should be concerning me.

    My partner witnessed her Father brutally assaulting her Mother throughout her childhood. I have started to notice similar traits in her to her Dad. It's things like getting in childish moods when she doesn't get her own way, extreme road rage, getting very angry over trivial things, having insecurities about me cheating or leaving. She is concerned too. She hates the way she behaves at times and cries a lot when she snaps out of it.

    I am incredibly tolerant and strong willed fortunately and can honestly say at this stage I have never felt threatened, just irritated and stressed out by her irrational behaviour. She is gentle, kind and compassionate the majority of the time. I am struggling to tell if these issues relate to her mental health and her childhood experience, or if these are the warning signs that something is wrong.

    Either way what can I do? I want to help her as well as myself. We are able to discuss these matters calmly and do quite often, it hurts her more so than it does me I think. She wants help. Do you think if you catch these things early enough with good communication they can be put to rest before it really starts?

    anonymous - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Anonymous,

      Thank you for your message, I can hear that you are concerned about your partner and concerned about the potential for things in your relationship to become abusive. It’s good that you have felt strong enough to come here and share your concerns.

      It sounds like your partner is showing some emotionally abusive behaviours towards you, and she is aware of the impact that this could have on your relationship. It sounds like you are both able to discuss this and that’s great. If your partner wants to stop behaving the way she is there is a good chance that with the right support she will. It sounds like she has witnessed a lot of abuse as well as perpetrating it but this does not mean that her behaviour is ok.

      There are services available if she wants to address anger and controlling behaviour, and she can find these by contacting the Respect Phoneline on 0808 802 4040. But my main concern is for you. Do you have anyone in your life you can discuss this with, such as friends or family? If not and you feel that you would like to talk to someone further around this then you can contact Broken Rainbow, who are an LGBT domestic abuse helpline, on 0300 999 5428. They are open Monday to Friday 10am - 8pm Monday, 10am - 5pm Tuesday , 10am - 5pm Wednesday, 10am - 8pm Thursday.
      Take care,

      This is Abuse team 06/02/2014

  • Charlie Newton


    Relationship abuse shall not be accepted in todays society. And if you are being abused get out of it srtraight away dont be scared your the victim. Speak to a parent/carrer or a help service for advice and help. :D Hope this helps:p

    Charlie Newton - 04/02/2014

  • matt


    I was a (male) victim of abuse by my wife. It started out as verbal, mental and financial abuse and after I had a nervous break down, physical abuse. She divorced me after I left home with only the clothes I stood in. I couldnt fully cope with the divorce as it brought back flashbacks of the horror of living with her and so in an act of savage injustice the kangaroo divorce court awarded everything I owned to my abuser and left me homeless and destitute.

    matt - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Matt,

      Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you have had a really difficult time, and I want you to know that there are services out there that can help you. You might benefit from contacting the Men's Advice Line on 0808 801 0327, a national helpline for men who have experienced domestic abuse. They may also be able to put you in contact with local services that can offer you ongoing support.

      It's really unusual that your partner was given everything by the Court, as assets are normally split 50/50 if the relationship has been longer than 2 years. It may be worth going back to get some more legal advice around this. It may be worth looking to see if there is a Law Centre which offers free legal advice in your area to see if this can be challenged.

      However, my main concern at the moment is that you are getting some emotional support. It may also be worth talking to your GP as you are entitled to 6 sessions of counselling on the NHS which may help you begin to tackle some of these issues.

      I hope this helps! Take care,


      This is Abuse team - 05/02/2014

  • Sarah Jane


    I am in an emotionally abusive relationship. Cannot believe I left one which was left than perfect but where I felt safe and walked in to this. He is charming and lovely lots but has outbursts where he says he doesn't want to be with me, says I don't need to see my single friends anymore, gets annoyed when I don't want sex, gets cross if I don't wear flat shoes. I'm always second guessing myself and doing things to please him rather than things I actually want to do. He is going to therapy and had glimpses if recovery which kept me in but then of course something will happen. That look. The quiet. When I told him how I felt the other day in a really loving way he thought that what I said was disgusting and disappointing in such a way it broke my heart. I know this isn't love. We kind of work together and the people that look after me in the company all work for him so afraid as leaving work will have a potential impact in my career. But
    At the stage where I don't care and just want my freedom. I'm too scared to tell him and
    I am not good with confrontations at all anyway. Would a letter be best? I REALLY news your help. I am crying all the time. I'm very successful and smart usually. Please please help. X

    Sarah Jane - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Sarah Jane,

      It can be really tough when we know the best thing to do is to end a relationship, especially when it is intertwined with career and such like. But I think you know that it is best for you to end the relationship, because like you said, he is still not changing his behaviour even though he has accessed therapy.

      He couldn't fire you, and if he did then you could take him to an employment tribunal for unfair dismissal.

      However, I think the most important thing here is that you look after yourself, and your emotional wellbeing. It is clear that he is being abusive, and does't want to address his behaviour, and in that case then you have to remove yourself from the situation to stay safe.

      It might be helpful to get in touch with your local domestic abuse service, they will offer you support around the emotional abuse that has taken place and may be able to offer ongoing support for you. You can find them on Google or by contacting the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team - 05/02/2014

  • Dee


    I've bin on and off with my ex for nearly a year now. We split up around last June and since then acted like a couple but he never actually wanted get back together with me. All my family and friends hate him and he's never made an effort come mine. Its always me going to see him. And if i dont then he calls me a slag and slut and sais i obvisoly have better things to do. Sais if i dont buy him things he will go out and meet other girls. Then sometimes when I am with him he will be really nice to me one minute saying he loves me. And the next just go all funny with me and say i make him sick and to get out of his house. He's blocked me off all social netwoking sites and only speaks to me through text. And Ive found out he has bin meeting other girls. He constantly brings me down and be-littles me. Ive recently found out i'm pregnant and he's saying its not his and accusing me off sleeping round. Its like i cant do anything right! I love him to bits but I just cant cope anymore

    Please help :(

    Dee - 04/02/2014

    • Hi Dee,

      It sounds like a really horrible situation. I don't think anyone deserves to be treated the way he is treating you. It is not kind, and it is certainly not loving. It seems that you are giving him far more respect than he is giving you.

      It's very clear that this is an unhappy relationship, and you are putting in far more than your partner, but it is your choice what you would like to do next. It seems like your family really dislike him, it might be worth finding out why that is.

      It is at times like this that you need support from those closest to you, especially with a baby on the way, so talk to your friends and family about what has been going on.

      It might be helpful for you to talk to us a little bit more about what has been happening for you. We are running live chat sessions Monday to Friday 5pm until 7pm on the website.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team - 05/02/2014

  • chloe


    I have been in a relationship for over a year now but the emotional abuse has only been going on for a few months. He admits he has an anger problem and always says he is going to change. I love him but my self esteem and confidence because of the name calling, criticism and screaming at me almost every day is non existent, and yes he has hit me but only twice. I cry every day and now sorry just isnt good enough, I love him to death well the old him what can I do to help me and to stop him

    chloe - 03/02/2014

    • I know exactly how you are feeling, the same is happening to me at the moment, we need to stick together, if you are scared of him you need to leave. I know its easy for me to say that but I have to do the sane thing, we think we love them but this isn't love. Its disrespectful and degrading, we can all do much better than a partner that hurts you, hope you get the support.

      Daisy x

      daisy - 05/02/2014

    • Hello Chloe,

      Thank you for getting in touch.
      It sounds as though your having a difficult time at the moment. You are in an abusive relationship where your partner is verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. I know that you said that he only hit you twice but no one has the right to hit anyone, not even once.
      It seems unlikely that he will change his behaviour as you said he keeps promising to change but never does.
      Have you told anyone about what is happening? A friend, family member or someone you can trust?

      You could contact or call them on their Freephone number 0808 2000 247.

      We also have live chat sessions Mon-Fri, 5-7pm if you wanted to chat.

      Take care

      This is Abuse team 04/02/2014

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This isn't a dating site – it's a platform to talk about teenage relationship abuse and your opinions on the matter; don't use it to meet or flirt with other people.

Don't write everything in CAPS – it's the equivalent of shouting and isn't polite or easy for everyone to read.

Don't post entire messages in text speak – it's ok to shorten some words but not everyone understands text speak or finds it easy to read.

It's ok to post links to other websites as long as they're relevant to the "This Is Abuse" debate and don't break the house rules in any way.

Don't break copyright rules. This means that you shouldn't post text you didn't write.