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  • louise


    about a year ago I was raped a couple of weeks after I was okay but now I have trouble sleeping, eating and being round other people I feel so trapped and that it was my fault I started hurting my self and I tried to commit suicide twice I don't know what to do

    louise - 20/04/2014

    • Dear Louise,

      Thank you for your message. You have been really brave to write what has happened to you and how you are feeling. I can hear how much you are coping with and how much you need a bit of support.

      What happened to you was not your fault. You are not to blame for what happened to you, you did not do anything to deserve being raped. You have gone through something traumatic and the feelings you describe of blaming yourself, self harm and wanting to end your life are responses to that trauma. You have had to cope for a long time with these feelings and that takes a lot of strength. Have you been able to tell anyone what has happened to you? Have you had any support at all?

      Sexual abuse and rape can be hard to discuss with people you know. And some times people are not as understanding as they could be when they hear about rape. From what you write it sounds like you are in need of some kind of help, as they emotions you describe, as well as they ways you are having to cope with these emotions, are hard for a person to carry alone.

      I would encourage you to call Rape Crisis, they are an organisation that specialise in working with women and girls who have suffered sexual violence. They can talk with you in a confidential and non-judgemental setting. You can reach them on 0808 802 (12 –2.30 & 7 – 9.30 everyday). The more people you have supporting you, the easier it will be for you to decide what to do next to get the help you need at this time. At the moment it sounds like you are having to work very hard at putting one foot in front of the other and coping with what has happened, you deserve to have somewhere you can share your story with and people who can stand beside you while you recover.

      I have included some information you may want to look at below. It’s about rape so you might want to make sure you are somewhere you feel safe when you look at it.

      We have live chat 5-7 weeknights if you would like to talk with one of our advisors.

      Take care and thanks again for your message.


      This is Abuse team 22/04/2014

  • Jake


    This website is clearly being a huge support for people and i hope it continues to grow keep up the good work and to people coming here for support i commend their courage especially in light of some of the situations being dept with

    Jake - 18/04/2014

  • Sarah


    I'm 18 and About a year ago i was with my Boyfriend at the time, We went out for a night out and had gotten pretty drunk, everyone left and he offered for me to stay at his house, needless to say he was more drunk than I was and was not in the mood for what he wanted to do. I said no multiple times and eventually he gave up asking and just 'went for it'. I've never felt more violated in my life, he told me how sorry he was after, but this was only when he saw me crying. I don't really wanna go in to more detail about it as shortly after I split up with him. I've tried to put it behind me, but theres times where I just wanna break down and cry because of it. I know it's too late to bring it up to the police (I was in school at the time and didn't want any attention on me as I was pretty sure everyone would've called me a 'liar'), but is there any advice i could get? Any at all would be helpful

    Sarah - 18/04/2014

    • Hello Sarah,

      Thanks for your message. I'm sorry to hear that you have had such a traumatic experience. Everyone has the right to say 'NO' to sex regardless if your in a relationship or not.
      The use of alcohol can never be used to justify someone's actions it is simply used as an excuse.
      Being raped was in no way your fault and many victims fear of speaking out about their experience as they fear they will not be believed.
      I would suggest you contact or call the national helpline 0808 802 9999 (12-2.30pm and 7-9.30pm).

      Take care

      This is Abuse team 22/04/2014

  • Ani


    I have known dis guy as he was my school junior. after yrs we cam in contact n he asked me out for a party, i was bored so i went out. I dont remember what was der in the drink bt we ended up making out. frm d vry nxt day he is forcing me to be wid him. whereas i have explained him and said sorry but he startd abusing me n strtd givin me life threatenin sayin dat if he keeps me in the gun point dn i ll b in love wid him. he strtd following me evrywhr. im feeling vry helpless. dont know wat to do..keeps on callin or sents me abusive msgs.

    Ani - 15/04/2014

    • Hi Ani,

      Thanks for getting in touch. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation.

      Nobody can force you to be in a relationship with them, this is your choice and it sounds like you don't want to do that.

      If somebody is harassing you then you can report this to the police, and they will be able to issue a harassment warning. Alternatively you might want to look at taking out a Non-Molestation Order, which will stop him being able to contact you directly or indirectly.

      I think it would be really helpful for you to come and talk to us on our live chat service on the website, Monday to Friday 5pm until 7pm. You can also contact the National Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team - 15/04/2014

  • Amanda


    I am glad I found this page as iv always felt I'm the only one going through this...I have been through a lot in my lifetime and it's only now I'm in my 30s that I need to get help and do something about it as it's affecting me so badly. I have an uncle who tried to abuse me on 2 occasions when I was about 5 or 6..I moved away from him as my mum gave me and my brother away she didn't want us, we went to live with my dad and grandparents were helping too and my grandad used to touch and kiss me and tell me not to tell anyone. As a young child I was already messed up and confused from the rejection from my mother..I hated my life and so did my brother and he tried to kill himself twice and I found him both times, I understand why he did it our life was unbearable. I had a friend that lived near me and she was really confident and outgoing and with me next to her I was worthless, as we got to teenagers this guy moved in next to us and she liked him and they started to see each other, by this time I was seeing my mum again and struggling with where I belonged..I was 16 and me and my friend went into this guys she was seeing and had a few drinks, I wasn't one for having a lot to drink and neither was she..his friend was there so there was 4 of us..things were ok but I just felt out of place and I was always quiet and shy..we had a couple of drinks and and my friend said she was going home and left, I felt silly sitting there and didn't know what to say, this guy offered another drink so I took it and things were ok just chatting then this other guy left and from that point I remember nothing it's like I blacked out or a mental block I don't know I just have no memory of it..the next thing is I remember I'm wakening up face down in the bed with my trousers and pants down..I felt fuzzy and out of sorts, I don't know if minutes or hours have passed I have no idea...I don't remember leaving or getting home!! I had 3 drinks!!! The next day I felt like I had a terrible hangover and felt so guilty but I don't know why!! I seem this guy the next day and I ask him what had happened and he said it was all me my fault!! I couldn't believe it...I moved away from that area and never told my friend as she was mad about's 16 years later and all the feelings from it have resurfaced!! After I moved away I met a guy I really liked and we were In a relationship and I got pregnant and he totally changed..I was so happy about being pregnant and he told me I had to get rid of it our relationship was never gony work, I refused and then gave in with weeks of pressure from him and after I had the procedure he never bothered with me again!!..I then met a guy that I married and was in a 10 year relationship with and he was a horrible person he was mentally abusive and treated me bad...he cheated on me a few times and told me what to do..I lived I a beautiful big house and went nice holidays but by this time in my life I was a robot a total shell of a person!! I thought one day I was starting to get strong and I thought pay back time! I slept with someone we knew and I told my husband about it after words thinking that this would end the relationship and I would finally be free how wrong was I...he forgave me right away and told me he would become better, so going with the other guy only added to my worthlessness and the constant battle that goes on in my head everyday!! It made me feel awful for years and still to this day even tho we have been split up for over 3 years it still haunts me!! From a young age iv had my spirit broken and felt worthless and shouldn't be living anymore!!...I try everyday to be better than yesterday and I always to good by people and I'm there for everyone but on a daily basis fighting the demons in my own head and they are winning!!..iv experienced a few different abuses in my life and nobody should have to experience any of that!! I'm constantly wishing my life away because the person I feel I am deep down inside is a lost soul..I don't know what the feeling of happy is!! Iv now approached the doctor and I'm starting's going to be a long road but I have to try something as I can't live with this dark cloud any longer.

    Amanda - 13/04/2014

    • Dear Amanda,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear that you are feeling very low and in need of some support at the moment. You have done a really strong thing by posting and making the other steps you have in your life to seek help. There and there is specialist support you can access.

      Since the death of your mother left when you were a child, when you will have been very vulnerable to people in your life abusing you. You have experienced a lot of painful things. The aftermath of the abuse and rape you have experienced have affected you a lot, which is natural. It sounds like you have had to cope on your own with so much unhappiness and you have managed that for a long time. But now you need some support.

      Have you had any support for what you have been through in the past? There are lots of services out there and they will be able to give you some support and some advice about what to do next.

      Sexual abuse and rape can be hard to discuss with people you know. If that’s the case you can call Rape Crisis, they are an organisation that specialise in working with women and girls who have suffered sexual violence. They can talk with you in a confidential and non-judgemental setting. You can reach them on 0808 802 (12 –2.30 & 7 – 9.30 everyday). If you have someone supporting you may find that you feel more comfortable in future relationships. The more people you have supporting you, the easier it will be for you to decide what to do next to get the help you need at this time.

      I have included some information you may want to look at below. It’s about rape so you might want to make sure you are somewhere you feel safe when you look at it.

      You are making lots of positive steps in your life to recover from what you have been through. What happened to you was not your fault, you deserve some support now to assist your recovery.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team 14/04/2014

  • anoncf


    hi, im 16 and with a girl the same age. We have a great relationship and she feels safe happy and i respect her a hell of a lot and she is wonderful to me. in the very early stages she kissed her ex boyfriend and someone else who she is friends with and it left me hurt and i felt betrayed, she told me the very next day and i forgave her for it but it has left me feeling very fragile and cagey, this has lead to me occaisionally getting riled up when she goes out with her friends because shes friends with loads of boys and they act really flirty and i dont like it, i dont control or try to stop her but i do occaisionally get mad, does this make me an abuser?

    anoncf - 13/04/2014

    • Hi Anoncf,

      Thank you for your message. It shows a lot of strength and self-awareness out reach out for a bit of support and I am pleased you have felt able to.

      It sounds like you are feeling out of control and jealous after your partner kissed someone else, and that you are behaving in ways you don’t feel comfortable with, like getting angry with your girlfriend and checking up on her. These behaviours can be seen as abusive, the fact that you have posted here shows that you are aware that whet you’re doing is not ok and you don’t want to be behaving in a way that upsets her.
      You might want to have a look at this leaflet that explored ways of managing jealousy.

      I would encourage you to contact the Respect phone line on 0808 802 40 40 if you are worried about your behaviour escalating. They are open Monday to Friday 9-5. You can talk to them about your feelings and they can point you towards further support in your area.

      You can also contact us using the live chat on this site 5-7 weeknights, if you want to talk about this a bit more.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team 14/04/2014

  • zoe



    I dont have anyone to talk to about this so I wanted to get an educated opinion.. my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and we met and became close through our bond of drinking. It became a problem as we began to fight when we got drunk together, and it always seems to be me who starts it only if we are in social situations, never one on one, and when I blackout i start hitting him and kicking him and telling him how much I hate him. If he is drunk too he will hit me back adn we dont stop until someone starts bleeding or one of us runs away. We both love eachother very much and when we are sober have a good relationship and have tried many times to quit drinking but we always seem to go to social gatherings/raves/parties at bars and getting really drunk and beating eachother up. I love him so much but I know its me who starts it and I dont think he deserves this at all, he should have a girlfriend who can go out with him and get drunk and I apparently cant. I dont want to break up with him or lose him.. But this has been happening for a year and I cant take it anymore. We cant seem to stop drinking together but I cant imagine my life without him. We have elaborate goals for the next 10 years of our lives together. Id be so lost without him..

    zoe - 12/04/2014

    • Hi Zoe,

      Thanks for coming forward to talk about what has been happening for you and your partner. There are some really complex issues here.

      It seems like you are in quite a vicious cycle of violence and alcohol use and it seems like both of these need to be addressed. I understand that you have tried to address your drinking, but it seems like you are going to need to change your lifestyle if you are going to be able to address this.

      However, it will take a huge amount of commitment, but there are a lot of services out there that can help you address these issues. You could find your local alcohol service through your GP or your local council.

      There are also huge concerns that your partner and you are both using violence. This is putting you both at huge risk, and under the influence of alcohol it is worrying how violent you or your partner could be, and this is putting both of your lives in danger.

      There is a lot of information for both you, and your partner at You can also call the on 0808 802 4040.

      It is really vital that you both get some help to address what is happening.

      Good luck,


      This is Abuse team - 15/04/2014

  • anon


    I think my mum may be in a controlling relationship because when her friends as her to come out she makes exuses such as we have plans or he wants to goout and when she reads her texts he llooks at em and rarely asks what shes gonna pyt and shes getting to the point where she hands her phone to him to read the messages. is she in a controlling relationship? ?

    anon - 12/04/2014

    • Hi
      Thanks for your message. It must be really hard to be worried about your mum.
      It is not ok to read someone else's messages or to control them in any way. From what you have said it does sound like he is being quite controlling which is concerning.

      Have you spoken to her about this? Perhaps you can tell her (when you are alone) about this website? There are lots of places who can help if she wants to get some support. I am not sure where you live but if you search online for the name of the nearest town to you and 'domestic violence support' you should find details. You can also search here:

      It can be really hard worrying about other people we care about, and what is happening is not your responsibility so you may want to talk to someone yourself if this is upsetting you.

      I hope this helps,
      take care

      This is Abuse team - 14/04/2014

  • Hannah


    Hello. I'm currently in a relationship and I am desperate to get out. We have been together for nearly 2 years and have an 8 month old baby together. I got pregnant very quickly after we got together and feel that the only reason why are together still is because of the baby. Unfortunately he has a hold over me and physically won't let me go. I have tried leaving him on several occasions but he always uses physical means to stop me. He threatens me, calls me names and has physically abused me several times. I'm currently suffering from a swollen face and ear from being pinned down and having him crush the side of my face. I do not want to leave my baby with him but have nowhere to go to get away. He doesn't want me to leave the house without him. He kicked the bathroom door down to get to me today. All of this is infront of our baby. When I say I want to leave him he begs me to stay and tells me how much he needs me.
    I don't know what to do. I need to get out but i am scared for me and my baby.

    Hannah - 11/04/2014

    • Hi Hannah
      I am really glad you got in touch, what you are going through is very serious and very dangerous. You are right to be concerned for you and your baby.

      I know it is hard but it is really important that you tell someone. Do you have a health visitor that you see? Are you ever able to be alone with them? Have you gone to the doctors or A&E for your injuries? I am concerned that you need to get medical help now. If you do, perhaps you can talk to someone there? I understand that he does not let you leave the house so perhaps you are not able to get the help you need.

      What about family or friends? Are you in contact with anyone else you can tell? Does he leave the house at all so you can have space to call someone or the police?
      In case you are able to, the national domestic violence helpline number is 0808 2000 247. They are open 24 hours a day and can give you advice and tell you about local services. You could get a place in a refuge where he will not be able to find you.

      I know this all feels very scary and overwhelming, but you have done the right thing in looking for help. It may be a good idea to not tell him you are planning on leaving as this can make the abuse increase. If you can get support from a service they will be able to help you leave safely. You do not have to cope with this alone, there is help and support out here. None of this is your fault.

      If you are able, we have a live chat service every mon-fri between 5-7pm.
      I hope this helps,
      take care

      This is Abuse team - 14/04/2014

  • Laila


    Hi there,

    I have a question: when I was about 19 (a couple of years ago now), I had a sexual encounter with this guy who I was living with (it was a house share so there were 7 other people living there). I was *very* drunk- like, on the way home (we had all gone out together) my head was lolling out of the taxi. He was being very forward and clearly coming on to me, but went back to his room when I went upstairs to go to the toilet. When I came down, I went to his room myself. So, I put myself into the situation, but I seem to remember being unsure and expressing that I wasn't sure I wanted to go ahead when he started initiating sex. I kept blacking out and barely remember anything- even whether he had a condom on or not (next morning I took the morning after pill just to be sure). After he finished, I remember him saying that he was worried what our other housemates would think if they found out- that they might think it was wrong of him. It's also worth mentioning that he was basically sober throughout this encounter.

    Basically, my question is this: if I went to his room myself and basically put myself in the situation- maybe even looked like I was initially saying yes to having sex, just by my body language or something, but at the same time was obviously *very* drunk and not myself at all, does that class as rape? I'm very uncertain. I definitely didn't feel like it had been entirely consensual the next morning, but thought it was probably my fault because I put myself in the situation.

    And finally- does coercion count as rape?

    Thank you!

    Laila - 10/04/2014

    • Dear Laila,

      Thanks for your post. It sounds as though you already feel that happened was not okay.

      If you were too drunk you couldn’t consent to sex. Going to someone’s room is not in itself consenting to sex either and certainly doesn’t make what happened your fault. I think it would be good to talk this through with an advisor at Rape Crisis on 0808 802 9999.

      Coercion, i.e. harassing someone, intimidating them, threatening or in some other way pressurising them into sex takes away their freedom to consent. If someone is coerced into sex they are not freely agreeing to sexual intimacy (consenting).

      I really hope you decide to give the number above a call and talk this through.

      Take Care,

      This is Abuse team 10/04/2014

  • Hannah



    I'm 17 and the other day i was at a party and had been drinking throughout the night, I ended up sleeping in the same bed as a guy I knew but didn't really mind cause there was limited space and i just wanted to sleep. I woke up in the night with him having his arms over me and touching me i didn't really say anything. Then he started kissing me and touching all over my body I didn't do anything to stop it but I didn't really like it either and I was shaking a lot. I just wanted to know if this is ok and what I should have done.

    Hannah - 09/04/2014

    • Hi Hannah,

      Thanks for getting in touch.

      No matter how much you have had to drink, you can never be responsible for the way somebody else behaves. He had no right to touch you whilst you slept next to him, and if he touched you in a sexual way then this would be deemed sexual assault.

      For somebody to touch you like that, then they must have your consent. You must physically tell them yes, and you did not do this in this case.

      It must have been scary for you, have you talked to anybody about what happened? It might be helpful to talk through your experience of what happened. We are running live chat on the website Monday to Friday 5pm until 7pm. You could also contact Rape Crisis on 0808 802 9999.

      If you are concerned about what happened then you can tell the Police on 101.

      None of this is your fault, so I hope you take the time to talk it over.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team - 09/04/2014

  • Lin


    I've been married for 25 years and during that time my husband has been verbally abusive and controlling including over having sex. He often takes my phone or ipad away if he thinks I'm using it too much, tells me when I should go to bed at night, moans when I see my friends, calls me lazy, wants to know where I am all the time and can often phone my mobile several times a day. Tries to blame me for everything and has hit me once a few years ago. A lot of the time he can be pleasant but has a habit of watching what I'm doing all the time and if I disappear from the room he will come looking for me. I don't feel as if I love him anymore but not sure I'm ready to leave at the moment. We have 3 grown up children.

    Lin - 07/04/2014

    • Dear Lin,

      Thank you for your message. It takes a lot of strength to make the first step towards getting support, which is what you have done today by posting here. You don’t have to cope on your own with what is happening to you.

      You are in a domestically abusive relationship with your husband. Through critisism, , control, violence and sexual abuse he has made you feel that you are unable to leave him, even though his behaviour is making you feel unhappy and trapped. You have been in a relationship a long time, and it’s understandable that you may feel that you are not ready to end that relationship. However, you have gone through a lot and you deserve some support to help you recover from what you have experienced, and cope with the abuse you are still experiencing.

      Do you have anyone you could speak to in your life? Family or friends? If not I would encourage you to call the 24 -hour domestic abuse helpline on 0808 2000 247. You can speak to them about how you are feeling and what options you could take. You are very isolated at the moment so no wonder you feel trapped. If you have some support you will feel less daunted. They will also be able to give you advice about the financial aspects of the relationship. You can also look on this website for more information.

      You also say that your husband has been controlling about sex. Do you mean that you have been forced into sex that you have not wanted? If this is the case, that is rape and is a serious crime. If you want to access support for this you can call Rape Crisis. They are an organisation that works with women who have experienced sexual violence. You can reach them on 0808 802 9999 (12-2.30pm, 7-9:30pm). It’s confidential and is a safe place to talk about what happened to you. and maybe identify more suitable and specialist support in your area.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team 07/04/2014

  • Not Nightingale


    Hello there,

    First of all, thank you for having such a wonderful system for helping out people who are victims or potential victims of abusive relationship.

    It is no excuse but I am a human, so I do have flaws. I am a clumsy person that drops things on the floor, especially when I am excited. So my boyfriend will react to it when I am being clumsy or generally showing my flaws. He will call me a failure of life and tell me that all the reasons of him being this way to me is because of my flaws. I tried to change them, really, but bad habits die hard. He will then stop talking to me and just ignore me altogether when I did something wrong, he calls this 'a way for him to complain' as I don't take in any advice.

    I am not sure what to do anymore. I love him a lot, I don't think I am too much of a failure in my life but I feel lack of confidence due to what he said. I have flaws and those flaws has caused his reaction upon me. When he is not angry he is a sweet person but when he is angry I don't like it. I tried telling him about it but he said that I am overreacting, there are a lot of things that are my own decision and I can't back out from my own decision. He called me stupid and being a liar as I back out from my own decisions.

    He is a real sweetheart when he is not angry, really. He will buy me gifts and shower me with a lot of physical and emotional affections. When he is angry, he is scary. I don't want him to be angry.

    I am not sure what to do anymore. Maybe it is my fault. I will love to have some advice, sorry that if it is too vague for any indication.

    Thank you and have a nice day.

    Not Nightingale

    Not Nightingale - 06/04/2014

    • Hello Not Nightingale,

      Thanks for your message. First of all every single person has flaws this is nothing to be embarrassed of it simply makes us the people who we are. In a healthy relationship this would not be an issue, a partner would support us and offer encouragement to make changes if we wanted to.
      However your relationship sounds abusive. Many abusers will often blame us for their actions and use blame as a way to justify their behaviour. This can leave us feeling worthless and have a damaging affect on out emotional well-being.
      Many abusers can seem loving at times but again this is all part of their control over us. When they are kind it gives us hope they will one day change. Victims can be showered in gifts from their abusers but this is simply to ease their conscience because they know their actions towards us are wrong.
      It is important that you know domestic abuse is never your fault. The blame lies solely with your partner.
      Abuse very often starts off emotionally but can quickly escalate to physical/sexual abuse.
      I would recommend you contact your local domestic abuse service or who can offer advice and support. There is also a National Freephone Helpline 0808 2000 247.

      Take care

      This is Abuse team 07/04/2014

  • Katie


    I have recently split up with my boyfriend of two years, mutual-ish circumstances. He loved and adored me and I know he wouldn't hurt me - However, after reading this website from coming across the advert on Youtube, I am now feeling a bit confused and weird...on many occasions he asked to have sexual intercourse with me...I didn't want to, he kept asking...I submitted, not enjoying it one bit, is this abuse, as I think he was unaware that I didn't want it...but he did keep asking and I know he loves it still abuse or? Confused, thanks! If it is, how do I stop feeling like this...I feel a little bit worried and funny inside.

    Katie - 06/04/2014

    • Hi Katie,

      Thank you for getting in touch. Everyone has the right to say no to sex, in any situation. It makes no difference if we have given consent in the past we should still be able to say no and our wishes be respected. If we feel pressurised or forced into sex then this is rape and against the law.
      I can understand how confusing this can be for you. I would recommend you contact who can provide advice and support to you. You can also contact the National Helpline for sexual violence on 0808 808 9999 (12-2.30, 7-9.30pm)

      Take care

      This is Abuse team 07/04/2014

  • Esme


    me and my girlfriend have been going out for a while and we did some stuff and now it like she always want to do stuff is this a abuse she also checks my phone every day can there be abuse in a homosexual relationship

    Esme - 05/04/2014

    • Dear Amy,

      Thank you for your message. I can hear just how confused you are feeling at the moment and I am pleased you have felt strong enough to post here, the way your partner is treating you is not ok and you don’t have to cope on your own. Abuse can happen in relationships in homosexual relationships as well as heterosexual relationships. It’s still abuse and it’s not ok.

      The things you describe in your message are abuse. Your girlfriend is pressuring you into sexual activity that you don’t want and is checking your phone. You should not be forced in to doing things you do not want to do, even if you have done them before. Neither should anyone be monitoring who you are in contact with or what you are doing. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect and that isn’t the way your girlfriend is treating you.

      Have you been able to talk about what is happening with anyone in your life, such as family or friends? The more people you have supporting you the easier it will be for you to know what you want to do next. If you don’t feel able to talk to anyone in your life you can call Broken Rainbow on 0300 999 5428, they are a LBGT domestic violence helpline open Mon – Thursday 10am until 8pm and on Wednesday 10am until 5pm. You can speak to them in confidence about what is happening and you can discuss your options with them.

      We have live chat 5-7 weeknights if you would like to talk about this more with one of our advisors.

      Take care,


      This is Abuse team 07/04/2014

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Don't post crude, racist, offensive, violent or vulgar messages to the site.

Treat everyone with respect – even if someone has a different view to your own, don't let it get personal.

Don't glamorise illegal or dangerous activities, including violence of any kind. It's ok to talk about your experiences but you shouldn't encourage others to do anything illegal or dangerous.

Don't write anything that's untrue about anyone else (including boyfriend/girlfriend, parents, guardians, teachers, social workers, group leaders and famous people). Don't write anything that could harm anyone else's reputation.

This isn't a dating site – it's a platform to talk about teenage relationship abuse and your opinions on the matter; don't use it to meet or flirt with other people.

Don't write everything in CAPS – it's the equivalent of shouting and isn't polite or easy for everyone to read.

Don't post entire messages in text speak – it's ok to shorten some words but not everyone understands text speak or finds it easy to read.

It's ok to post links to other websites as long as they're relevant to the "This Is Abuse" debate and don't break the house rules in any way.

Don't break copyright rules. This means that you shouldn't post text you didn't write.